When is it the right time to tell someone you love them?
I’ve been with my boyfriend 3 months officially, we had an online dating phase because we met on Twitter and hadn’t met in person at that point. I had an inkling that I may have loved them then but I wasn’t convinced. Ever since we met in person for the first time he’s all I think about, I read his texts in voice in my head, his voice gives me butterflies, seeing his name on my screen does that. We’re 200 miles apart and I’m seeing him again at the end of this month. Should I tell him then? Deep down I’m worried it’s too soon, he’ll freak and I’ll lose him. I’m terrified of the emotion, I loved someone once and he pretty much crushed me emotionally.
You should do what you feel is right!! If it feels like the perfect time to tell him, do it! If you feel you should wait, do so. It's all up to you. Either way, if he really cared about you, he wouldn't break up with you or get mad for you just being honest with him and telling him the honest truth how you feel. Hope I helped!!! xoxo Message me if needed!
I say that if you feel something let people know. You cannot helo that you love him and he has to understand that. It is the right thing to do to tell him how you feel just so he knows. If he walks away then hes probably not worth it and you will find someone better but if he is ok with it even if her doesnt feel the same then that will be good. If he needs to catch up you will just have to give him some time to feel the way you do. Love is one of those uncontrolable things it comes and goes as it pleases. There is no right or wrong time to tell someone, but i do think that it is important to always be honest about your feelings even if your afraid of the outcome. You have also been together a while which means he cares about you alot even if he doesnt love you yet which means he should be understanding about it. sometimes people can shock you. ive never even been in a relationship and im in love with my bestfriend. I told her and everything is fine were closer thhen ever even though we arent involved. I just felt it was important to tell her and she was glad i did. So maybe your boyfriend will be to! :) I hope this helps xoxo <3
I go by the philosophy of telling people how you feel when you feel it. You never know when the opportunity to tell them will be stripped away. So if you keep waiting and waiting, and then you decide to tell him, and something happens and suddenly you can't tell him....well it's not going to be fun for you. However, I would make sure that he knows that he doesn't have to say it until he's ready. Let him know that you needed to let him know how you feel, but you are understanding and will patient with him. Do not make him feel pressured to say it back if he doesn't mean it. If he doesn't say it back, don't make saying 'I love you' a regular thing because then it's just going to put more pressure on him. Say it once, get it off your chest, and if he reacts with not saying it back, don't continue saying 'I love you'. I can't tell you if the time is right, or if you're ready. You have to decide what you do.
If I were you, I would wait. You can express how you feel about him in smaller, subtler ways. In my last relationship, I waited for my boyfriend to tell me. I play everything safe, though. The way I see it, what could it hurt to wait? Waiting would give you more time to be sure, and it wouldn't put him in anything he might be uncomfortable with. Sometimes it's hard to wait, though, so do what you feel you have to do! Good luck! :)
Well, do you know that he feels something for you as well? You say he's your boyfriend, so he should, shouldn't he? Let me tell you one thing, I'm from Germany and the whole 'saying I love you at the right time' thing isn't such a great deal here. I mean, come on, it's just a phrase. If he really likes you, he won't let you down because of one little sentence you said. But of course I understand that you feel nervous about it. Actually, I am in kind of the same situation as you are, I know a guy who lives in England, and, well, yeah :D We talk via Skype and we kind of talk about our feelings for each other, but not that openly. Maybe you could do what we did - say it as a joke and see how he reacts. Let's say you meet and you're kind of joking around, teasing each other and you just say "You're so rude.. But it's okay, I still love you" in relaxed voice, smiling, and just see how he reacts. If he doesn't take it up nicely, say it was just a joke. Just don't put too much pressure on you because of three little words :) Lots of luck ♥