When I see a man on tv who is abusive or controlling I’m very attracted to him. Thoughts?

On average, feeling attraction to something does not constitute really wanting it. It's not uncommon to feel attracted to things that scare you, and it may also be that you have some masochistic traits that urge this attraction. That being said, craving a relationship like that does not have to mean that you actually really want it, but more likely that the thought of it fascinates and attracts you. Sexual and romantic fantasies and cravings are often several times more extreme than what you'd actually want in reality. There is nothing wrong with you for feeling this way in and of itself, but it would probably be a good idea to stay conscious of it and, if it keeps popping up, maybe talk to a psychologist. There can be many reasons to crave an abusive relationship, and some need professional guidance. I hope this helps!

Like the two above me stated, it sounds as if you are attracted to a dominate male figure. You are attracted to the power and control that they exert over you. This is a normal attraction.However, keep in mind, that unless you are consenting, and trusting, there is no excuse to be physically, mentally or emotionally abused by any person at any time. In most domination and submissive relationships or attractions, there is a Huge trust between both people. Without it, the relationship doesn't work.

I wonder myself why some girls like men like this yet guys like me always finish last

That doesn't answer my question but thank you for your input.

hmm...this could have something to do with your childhood. You could have some issues with someone you knew, a

Ok, so, many women have 'fetishes' over these type of men. This isn't the creepy sort of fetish, or obsessive sort of fetish, this is just a fact that you are attracted to abusive men. However, this does not mean that (in real life) you will be attracted to an abusive partner and stay with him because of his abusive treatment, it is just almost a fantasy, in a way. I don't know whether this helped... but yeah x :) don't worry, quite a few others feel this way, some of them even male

Yeah, maybe it's just a sexual thing? It's ok to have dom-sub fetishes as long as its consensual. Just stay safe and do contemplate how you may have developed this fetish.