What’s so great about love?

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I know I know. What is life without love right? But love does not only come in another partner, a boyfriend or girlfriend but it comes with family and friends as well. I don’t understand why it seems like everyone is so hung up on the idea of love. And many times, people are in love with the idea in itself. It’s not like I’m against it though, I do like the idea of being in love and happily ever after too. I just think there are more to life than love. I have to say that I have never been in love so maybe that’s why. Maybe I will change my mind in the future but that’s that. We hear many people wanting to kill themselves after a relationship end or they feel like they can’t continue with life anymore and that is what I don’t understand. Are family love and love from our friends inferior to that? Why should the love of a partner be superior to any other forms? And what ever happened self love?

Edit: By all means, I’m not saying love is not a valuable thing and in no way am I disregarding love. I do see the value of love. I see the value of all kinds of love and that is why this question is here. I see people who have love from family but they are so hung up on love from a significant partner, they take it for granted. “But I think someone who doesn’t see the value of love has so much love and just takes it for granted.” Which is precisely what I’m trying to say. Love does not only come from a significant other but from family and friends too. The value of those are too undermined, sometimes, in my opinion. I’m not saying love is not worth it. What I’m saying is there are other forms of love too that are worthwhile. I know this is not the case with every single individual out there but it does seem like it is a trend. All in all, I think self-love, family love and friend’s love are as important as the love from a significant other. Also, in no ways am I disrespecting suicide. Just to put that out there in case it got misunderstood.

Edit: Thanks a lot ForeignGoddess. It really mean a lot to me that you say that. I always viewed myself as weird and awkward, and that my opinions are so deep or off sometimes. And VividMelody, nicely put. :)

asked December 23, 2013

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I agree with you. I don't think love of a significant other is superior to the love of a family or friend - only different. No doubt it is strong but I wouldn't say stronger. I have felt just as passionate about friends, family and even strangers. People are beautiful to me and should be cherished. And you're right - most people idolize the idea of love when they have no idea what it really is. But I don't blame them - they just haven't experienced it yet. I didn't know what love was until my husband showed me what it was. I felt affection from others but very few seem to have a good grip on what it means to truly love someone.


“Love of another is merely empty flattery and self-deception for one who cannot accept himself without pretense.”― L.E. Modesitt Jr.
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I'm honestly at a lost for words with this. I don't even know how to even give my opinion on this. This really blew me away. I really want to hear more of your thoughts of different topics.
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That was pretty brilliant. I think people are hung up on it because we were told growing up that love was the most important thing in the world and that lesson probably wasn't the best.
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Love from family and friends is different than love from a significant other. Love from a significant other is passionate, the feeling you get when you look at them, the feeling when you touch them, when you're with them. It's an indescribable feeling. You don't get those feelings with your family and friends. Yeah I don't think it should be superior. But that kind of love is really strong and different. And I think you have to have self love to love someone else.
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Not to be callus. But I think someone who doesn't see the value of love has so much love and just takes it for granted. As someone who is lacking love of any-sort in their life I can honestly say every day to day action is harder. You question yourself more when you don't have the love and support of others. Love is a feeds the ego which feeds our will to live. We try harder if we are fighting for others and their love. So I dunno Kind of a rant but hey.. :) You don't know what you have til its gone I guess :)
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Though I Must admit No one should expect everyone to love them because their will always be haters. And to the Statement of Love hurts people and they commit suicide and all that. With Risk Comes Reward, like the stock market the greater the return often the greater the risk. Love is the ultimate gamble. But we don't have to get "hung up" on it being a one time shot. We can love , lose and love again. Some more than others but... True love is not only a 1 time thing in my mind, Like if you have ever seen a cute puppie, It's not the only one ever there may be more.. It just might take time to find one you love as much.. Anyway just some analogies.. Basically Love is very important IMO, but it shouldn't be the only thing valued.. But it should definitely been seen as valuable.. :) Btw I love you all, to a small friendly degree -HB
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It puts a smile on your face.