What to do about this guy


Recently I’ve met this guy, he’s a sweetheart and we have pretty much everything in common. We get along well, we talk all the time, we have the same interests, we both had rough childhoods, etc. There’s just a few small problems….he’s taking things a bit too fast. I’m 16 and I know very well that planning a future with someone, talking about moving in together and getting married and having kids one day is not what I should be focused on. My concerns are school, getting my license, planning for an independent lifestyle. I just don’t know what to do about him. Granted, he is four years older than me, and maybe it wasn’t a smart decision to begin with, but that’s why I need help. I’ve tried talking to him about this, but at this point, I don’t know what to do. He’s convinced that the moment I turn 18 we’ll be moving in together. He’s even planning on moving to live closer to me since he has a pretty successful career working as a graphic designer for Sony, but I don’t want that.
I want all of this talk about living together and having kids and getting married to stop, I’m too young for this. I don’t want to lose him, he’s been such a good friend to me and sometimes I think he’s like the male version of myself, but i don’t know what to do.
What do you think?

Category: Tags: asked June 1, 2015

5 Answers

Try to tell him you're honestly not ready yet, and make sure he takes you very seriously. Tell him all these reasons why, and say that you shouldn't dive into this all at once. If he really loves you, he won't push you to do anything you don't want to.
You always have to think of why someone in their twenties would be interested in forming a relationship with someone much younger than they are. 16 is definitely young to be in that kind of relationship and it seems like you're both on two different life paths. The way I see it is that you can talk through the problem and make it work, or take a break from one another to focus on your own lives
I think that you should tell him just what you wrote on here. It's not a stupid thing, it's very important. If he's intelligent he'll understand. But try not to offend him or make he think that you don't love him, and it'll be hard, because this kind of people is always touchy
Just tell him to back the fuck off! that you have your whole life to live and you haven't decided yet if that life is going to be tied to someone else. It sounds like you are the mature one in the relationship.
This is your life and you can do whatever you like. If you do not want this kind of relationship, you can remain friends with him. You could tell him that. If he doesn't respect that, his loss. You do not want to be around wrong people and you are still young. It's not your job to please everyone because they are not you. The best way for you to deal with things is to just have fun and that's what your life should be! :)