So one of my older sisters birthday has passed but we weren’t able to celebrate properly because she has college and work, so we planned to celebrate it the 4th of July weekend-since that was the only time she would be able to take a vacation with us-. She actually decided that she wanted to go to Vegas, since she just turned 21. My oldest sister and I had called her earlier today just to go over details of the trip. Basically we asked her if she would be able to take Monday off so we could come back then instead of Sunday because the traffic would have been bad. She then tells us that that would be her only day off for the summer so we would be unable to do anything else vacation wise-We possibly might do something else this summer but it has not been decided- My sister then preceded to tell her that it didn’t really matter since we wouldn’t be able to go anywhere decent since she would only get one day off and it wouldn’t be worth it. So we said that she would probably not be included on that hypothetical vacation -she decided to stay in school for the summer and work-
She then completely blew up and started yelling saying that she didn’t want to go on vacation anyway and then we hung up on her -she gets angry really easily- she then sent this passive aggressive text saying she didn’t want to talk to us for a while and that she didn’t want to go to Vegas anymore.
This really angered my sister and I. Personally I’ve been to Vegas a lot of times and I’m underaged so there’s not a whole lot I can do except shop, but I was still willing to go afterall, she was the one who chose to go there we gave her other options of places we haven’t been to before and she chose Vegas. My mom already booked the hotel and scheduled to rent a car and whatnot. The thing is she ALWAYS does this. She’s extremely selfish and does not act her age. For example two years ago we went to Vegas for thanksgiving because our grandfather -who basically raised my sisters and I- was dying of cancer and he loves going to Vegas. The whole time she was complaining and even locked herself in another room apart from the rest of the family.
I want to talk to her about it but at the same time I already know it will be fruitless. She always plays the victim of every situation and refuses to accept the fact that she has flaws. The thing is that my mom always sides with her so she blamed this whole matter on me and my oldest sister, it just makes things so awkward because everyone is upset with each other and is taking sides and I guess I don’t know what to do. I’m sure some of you can relate to this situation and I would like some advice at what you did to mend such relationships. Thanks.
