What to do about a ldr ?

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I have been in a long distance relationship for over 8 months. A week ago he said he wanted to break it off because it was too hard but he still wanted to be friends. I was heart broken because I still loved him. We have talked a few times since then but I am so confused. Every time we talk he says he loves me and doesn’t want to stop being friends but the relationship is never going to work. He also says he doesn’t want to be with other girls either. I know I should give him up but I still really love him too. I’m so confused.

Category: asked August 14, 2014

3 Answers

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I have experienced what you are feeling. For me, he's right. If the both of you can't handle the distance anymore, then you must just stay as friends. Nobody knows, maybe one day he will come to visit you and he will realize that he wants to be with you again. Or, if you have the guts to visit him, if you really want to be with him, you may.
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This'll probably sound cheesy, but do what makes you happy. If a long distance relationship is too much to handle for you guys, it's probably best that you let him go and try to be with someone that's a bit closer, someone you can see all the time. A relationship shouldn't be stressful, at least not to that extent. And it certainly shouldn't be this hard to maintain. If you guys are always thinking of breaking up- it probably isn't a relationship worth fighting for. I understand that you love him and that's the reason why you can't leave him, but you're trying to hold onto something that's not there anymore. believe me, it's best to just relieve yourself from all of this stress. Maybe some day you two will be closer and it could work. But for now, just worry about yourself. Hope everything goes well for you!
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Annie,I'm really sorry about the confusion, have you tried to talk to him about it? I know from expirence long distance relationships are hard. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, 2 and a half of which have been ld with even more to come now that he's joined the navy. I understand how he feels as it being difficult and not knowing it will work but the not wanting to see other girls sounds like he's either stringing you along so you don't get over him or he still wants to try. The other replies are definitely right. You need to worry about yourself and make sure you love yourself and are happy with yourself first because no relationship long distance or not is worth compromising that and if being friends is too painful maybe cut the friendship off for a bit and see what happens. There are a ton of guys out there that could make you happy if you let them, no need to stress yourself out over a ldr with a man if he isn't willing to try. However, if he is willing to try and you do wind up back together I really hope the best for you. Long distance relationships are possible! You're a wonderful woman. Just remember that!Wishing you the best!