What should I do, I’m caught between two guys?

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The guy I’m with is almost perfect (besides the fact he looks like JB, ugh…) but I just found out he drinks… Like often. Drinking is one of the major things on my list that I really don’t like in a guy. But then there’s my best guy friend who’s always been there for me, and I know he’s had a crush on me for several years now. He truly understands everything about me because we’ve been friends for 10+ years,and Bieber Boy only met me a few months ago. I don’t know what to do, and I don’t want to hurt Bieber boy because he’ll drink and get depressed. Please help!

Category: Tags: asked July 3, 2013

8 Answers

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'Bieber Boy' sounds like he has a drink problem. Maybe you could talk to him about slowing down and trying to get some help. If you don't want to stay in the relationship with him, and you shouldn't feel like you have to just to keep him from drinking more, fins a way to break up with him gently. Your friend sounds like he's a good guy who won't let you down
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Just from an outsider's perspective, you spoke a lot more fondly of your best friend, whereas when you spoke of your boyfriend, he just seemed like someone you knew, not that you cared much for. I'm not saying that you don't feel something for him, but it's more likely to be something that's fleeting, especially if he's doing something that's on your list of dislikes. With you knowing each other a few months, he's either not been honest with you about it or you just don't know each other well enough yet to know if he'll be right for you. If you're attracted to your friend, give him a chance. But if you think of him as only a friend, I think you should keep it that way rather than just being with him because he's been there and has a thing for you. Make sure it will work out so that you don't hurt him. It matters with a friend more than it matters with a boy you've only just met.
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Be with whichever one makes you happy. Sometimes in life you need to think about yourself and what you will have to do to keep yourself happy. From an outsider looking in, it seems like your best friend would be the one to go with, since he seems to be dedicated and thoughtful. He's been around for longer and seems like he wouldn't let you down.
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From what it sounds like to me, you're trying to get other people to tell you what you already secretly know; that you don't want to be with your current boyfriend. From the way you put him lower than your guy friend, and also how you call him a nickname that is judgmental of how he looks. I've also had a guy friend for a long time and I know he's always liked me, but that doesn't mean that I'm going to be with him. The same goes for you, you don't have to break up with your current boyfriend just because your best friend has been around longer and understands you better.If you feel uncomfortable with your boyfriend, instead of just leaving him in the dark, actually talk to him. Communication is the number one thing in a relationship, if you don't have good communication a relationship is bound to fail. Tell him that his drinking problem makes you uncomfortable, ask if there's any way you can help.
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go with the one you fell for second, because if you truly loved the first boy, you wouldnt have ever fallen for the second
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I think you should dump your current boyfriend. You shouldn't try to stay with him just because of what you think he might do, what about YOUR happiness? Your best friend seems like a better fit for you. I mean, you're eventually going to break up with this current guy anyway right, so why not do it now? Do you think you're going to marry a depressed drunk?
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i say go with the best guy friend, only if you feel the same way about him. if you don't feel the same way about the bieber guy, then don't date him, it's only wasting both of your time. and it's better to let go now then later, and if you're stuck between 2 guys, always go wiht the second one, because if you really did like the first one, you woulnd't even be in this situation right now.
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Why not work something out to have them both? Don't let the society hold you down with their silly notion that you can only handle one guy at a time.