What is a good way to help from crying yourself to sleep every night?

I’m a tough person on the outside, especially in the outside world. I once sprained my ankle really badly and walked on it all day without even crying at school until I got home and saw it was swollen badly and couldn’t walk on it.

So I keep having the urge to cry when I’m in bed, and sometimes I do. I tell myself that crying is a sign of weakness, especially since most girls cry all the time. I want to find a way where I don’t end up crying.

There is one song that helps me sometimes, it’s called “Baby Don’t Cry” by Big Bang. It’s half in English and half in Korean, so most people won’t understand it. But when Deasung says, “Baby don’t cry, baby don’t cry, baby don’t cry,” I can’t help but begin crying, and I cry hard. It doesn’t stop for sometimes hours.

But after listening to that song on repeat for a while, when he says those three words, it helps calm me down.

I don’t wanna be stuck crying myself to sleep at night forever. I’m completely heartbroken and I wish I could tell someone about it, but my friends will think I’m being dramatic, which I probably am.

Any help?

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mini_beethoven

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Crying is not a sign of weakness. My father used to ridicule my sister and me whenever we showed any emotion other than happiness, and it was totally unfair. Crying can often be a release of tension and stress that builds up. If you find that you are crying but don't know why, you might be suffering from depression, and should see a professional. Many people think that accepting help or getting on antidepressants means there is something wrong with them. Nothing could be further from the truth, especially if you're a teenager. Advocate for your own help and accept that you can't be "strong" all the time. REM (the band...showing my age here) has a song "Everybody Hurts" that you should listen to.

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MunchkinMommy

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If you just want to let your mind rest from it all at night; I suggest having a bubble bath before bed, something to help you relax... maybe do something you can really focus in on, this will sound silly but it's helped me - colouring, painting your nails, a wordsearch? You can print these off various websites... It's not something you have to do but it takes your mind away from the world for a while and can help you calm down. Acknowledge your emotions but don't indulge in them. When actually going to sleep, make sure your curtains/blinds are closed tight so no light is peeking through, and just put on a relaxing playlist - multiple can be found on youtube. Just remember you got through that day, you deserve this rest. I'm always here to message if you want to confide anything in me, I won't judge; I'll be happy to have helped and stopped you feeling alone and sad :) hope this helps x

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shecky

I'll PM you later with the details, if that's okay.

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mini_beethoven

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Hi, kitty!Before I answer, I love Big Bang, but I haven't heard that song, so I'll listen to it.Anyway, as we don't know what the issues are, we can't help much. But I'd suggest that you find something else to do before bed, for example, watching some Youtubers. I suggest Shane Dawson, Tyler Oakley, Smosh or Sawyer Hartman if you don't mind swearing, but if you do, then Alfie Deyes (Pointlessblog) and his friends might be better. You could also devise a playlist of songs which make you happy to listen to while you fall asleep.Otherwise, I'm not sure what else you could do.

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mzmingle

It's really not a good idea to be looking at ways to distract yourself from crying at night. Instead you need to figure out why you're crying and then fix that. If you need to talk to your parents or a professional do that, and of course you can always talk to me. Like others have said, crying is NOT a sign of weakness, it is a sign you are alive. Honestly I like to cry at night to let off the stress of the day, its extremely cathartic and a normal process. So if you ever want to talk about what is really bothering you, please let me know, but until then no amount of music, tv shows or youtube is going to help your sadness.

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Savannah Rae

I always have a large set of headphones on, and I actually control my emotions to some degree with what type of music I play. I can either amp up the emotion and make it a lot stronger, or I can dull it down by playing its opposite (though that doesn't always work. Sometimes I just get irritated instead). But whenever I feel the need to cry, I lock myself in my room, turn off all the lights, curl up under my blanket, hold a pillow close and let it out as quietly as I can. I usually end up falling asleep in the process, and end up feeling much better, even refreshed, in the morning. Sometimes you just have to let the cracks show through, and be okay with that, you know?

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Zach

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@viz9 I have a set time where I'm supposed to be in bed, but I tend to stay up an hour or so later, and I don't have a tv in my room. Any other suggestions?

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mini_beethoven

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Crying is completely natural and not at all weak. Yes, girls cry a lot because people don't tell them that it;s wrong whereas with boys are told by people that crying is not masculine. Sucks, I know. When I'm super stressed or really sad I cry and makes me feel just a little but better but that little bit makes a huge difference. But to keep from crying yourself to sleep, I like to listen to nice classical music before bed or other soothing music. With that I also like to day dream as well. making up visions of the future, when I'm done with school, away from the things that make me sad, doing the things I love. Then my mind usually becomes restless and full of too much information i stop and just focus on the music. It helps all the time. Good luck :)

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nat