What does she have that I don’t?

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So I have a group of friends that I’ve been hanging out with since 7th grade (I am a sophomore now) and the group is mostly guys and then there is me and my best friend. I don’t know why everyone has had a crush on her and no one has crushed on me. Not that I would go out with any of my closest friends (since I already like and I am talking to someone else) but it would be nice to know if someone had a crush on me as well. Is it something about me that no one likes? My appearance? Sometimes I think it’s my disorder… And the funny thing is that she is currently faking bipolar disorder and she diagnosed her self to have it and it’s ridiculous. She’s my best friend and all but she is doing it for the attention
and it is very annoying. I have an actual mental disorder and I find it a disrespect to see her pretending to be manic and depressed. She wouldn’t want to know how it is to be manic/depressed/hypo/etc. I don’t get it.

Category: Tags: asked March 30, 2014

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i know how you feel its very hard to cope up with understanding situations like these but trust me, your best friend thinks the same when it comes to you! why else would she fake such things? id say sit and have a decent serious talk with her about how you feel towards all this its not fair for you or her you guys are besties and these things shouldnt come in your friendships way regarding the entire crush thing...think about it? would u really rather have people crushing on you wanting your body or whatsoever rather than one true love that truly loves you for you and not just a crush? i think you're lucky youre not in that whole people crusing on you mess...its a lot of headaches AND heartaches. dont give that portion much attention, its just a phase
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In friend groups where the males circle around a female, she is likely very involved, very affectionate, or at the very least, presents herself as approachable.

When I was a teenager, my own friend group was set up that way. We were not passing the girl in our group between us like a football, but she was both motherly and flirty. It made her very comforting and stimulating to be around, and she relished in all the attention.

You do not have to present yourself as overtly sexual, but if you want boysbto crush on you, practice coquettish behavior; a fluctuation of hot and cold attention is the core of seduction and tantalization: give someone a few moments of intense, focused attention, then turn your attention elsewhere and you will whet their appetite for your attention and your presence.

Don't confuse the behavior of a coquette for "slutty", because the very nature of a coquette is that they DO NOT hand out sexual favors, but they hint that they MIGHT. It is that hint, that tease, that excites the mind and keeps people coming back.

But that is terrible advice to follow if you are just making friends. If you want a coterie of suitors following you around, play the coquette. If you want friends, however, that is as simple as showing interest in someone elses' life and talking little about yourself at first, then going out of your way to spend time together and trade interests.

If you want study material, google the PDF of Robert Greene's book "The Art of Seduction". It is a distillation of timeless wisdom concerning seduction in history, with a ton of practical, readily-useful information. It is a fascinating trip through history and a great read. A real must-read for anyone interested in how seduction works.

Pick it up and enjoy. :)