What does it mean when a girl says she needs time.


So I met a girl about over a week ago. We really fell into each other, we both started texting ourselfs cute things, etc. And when we met for the 2nd time, we kissed (just a quick kiss), then we would meet like 2 more times durning that time and both meetings ended with a quick kisses. But then for the last 2 days she started ignoring my texts, didn’t want to talk to me, etc. So I talkted to her about it and I asked her about a thing that bothered me – we never like said to each other “that we are together” or something like that. So I talked to her about it and she said something like “You know this all is happening really fast. I’m in point of my life where I don’t want to be in a relationship right now. But that doesn’t mean that it won’t work-out between us in the future. I just need more time”.

Does that mean that she just needs more time? Because I’m always all-negative about everything in my life and I’m just afraid it means she doesn’t like me anymore. I don’t know how to deal with it. How often should I text her? How should I deal with the fact that for the past 2 days she has been ignoring my texts and might do that again, when I want to talk to her.
I’m afraid of our contact being cut off.

Help me :(

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2 Answers

She doesn't feel comfortable and just needs some space. I know it can feel bad when someone ignores your messages but it might just mean that she's preoccupied with other thoughts. If you keep messaging her you'll probably add more stress. What would probably be best is to send her one message where you say that you understand she wants time and you'll give it to her. Tell her that you're scared she doesn't like you and that you'd still like to talk to her so she at least knows how you feel about this. But you have to respect her feelings and give her time if that's what she needs. And of course tell her that if anything is wrong she can always talk to you if she wants to, but if she needs time that's okay. You really just have to be honest. But don't repeatedly send her messages if she's ignoring them, it's a sign that she doesn't want to talk. She'll talk when she feels comfortable enough to do so. I know you may really like her, but love is like a boomerang. When you let it go, it'll come back. If you two really like each other then you'll miss each other. You just need to give someone space if they ask for it.
With my experience it probably means she's majorly ticked and isn't coming back. If she does it'll because she's come to some realization herself, or through other people. Pestering her will just make things worse, you can count on that lol.