What does it mean if I’m gay?

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I was trying to get help with this on chat, but it wasn’t working out too well.

My problem is, I was raised religious, my parents don’t really tolerate gays, and yet I think I may be one. When I try to talk to people they either turn out to be religious zealots and say I’m going to hell, which is not the answer I’m looking for, or don’t know what else to tell me. It’s very frustrating. When did Christians become so hateful? I don’t understand. Shouldn’t we make room for everyone on this Earth.

I do believe in God (for now) and I love Him and I know Jesus loves me. Can you be Christian and gay? I’m honestly so fed up with Christians right now, even though I know I am one.

I love gay people. And if I’m gay, I’d like to love myself too. I just don’t want to be abandoned by everyone who loves me.

Category: asked May 30, 2014

11 Answers

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Of course you can be Christian and gay. Plenty of people are. And those who truly love you will continue to love you. Though many religious people don't accept it, not every one of them goes against it. In the end, you be YOU. You're human just like everyone else, and who you're attracted to isn't a choice you can make which means people will have to accept that. Be proud of who you are, no matter who tries to bring you down about it. =)
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personally to me religion is turning into something commercial they use it for the wrong things...if you believe in god thats fine :) be youself be a good person and you will be fine hunny...your family and friends will need to accept you for who you are, you cant be something your not..if they love you they will be ok just maybe give them some time.. :)
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It means you're human, just like me. There's no shame in being gay, I doubt you're family will be against you being gay. They may be shocked at first but they'll come around. :)
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Oh, darling, of course it is! I, myself, am not Christian because I do not agree not with the overall values, but with how the people treat the religion. It's corrupted and tricky, like so many other religions, so you have to learn to love God in a way that is your own, find your own values. We shouldn't have to be part of a religion to love our Higher Being. The fact that your so open about your sexuality is beautiful. Tell your parents, because though they may be against gays you have to be comfortable with yourself. Praying for you.
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It's perfectly fine to be Christian and gay, I am a gay Christian. Although it's hard for families to accept this. They were raised to believe that it was a huge sin, which it isn't the new testament, which is the testament we live by, says nothing about gays.
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It means that you're going to almost always be the minority, which is frustrating. But you can do it. It's going to be fine.
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All that is means is that you are gay. What you believe is up to you. Never be afraid to be who you are, even if that means that your support group abandons you because their beliefs conflict with who you are. You deserve people who love and support you for who you are, not who they would like you to be.
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You can DEFINITELY be Christian and gay. Religion and sexuality are two distinct things and you shouldn't feel like you can't accept yourself over your religion. I'm not religious myself but I know there ARE accepting Christian churches and groups out there. There are plenty of Christians who have positive views of gay people within the religion, whether or not they are gay themselves. Religion is also widely open to interpretation and there are many people who see positive messages from the Bible towards gay people. You can also look at it this way: There are a large number of animal species who display homosexual behaviours and there is very strong evidence that being gay stems from biological factors (not just in people, but in animals too). If God created everyone and everything (which I don't personally believe, but I know many people do) then why would he create all these species that display homosexual behaviours if he really hated it that much? If God has a plan for everyone and creates everyone to be a certain way, why would he create gay people if he didn't intend for them to be that way? Certainly being a part of a religion that can be very intolerant to people's differences poses a number of problems. I hope you can find people in your religion who will accept you and help you come to accept yourself. There is nothing wrong with being gay, and I really hope that you won't hate yourself and try to live as someone you're not because of this. Best of luck.
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God made Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve I'm not trying to be mean I'm a Christian and those who are saying you are going to hell how so they know only god can judge you they are not some kind of person that can tell the future.
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I know you have a lot of answers already but heres mine :DYes, you can be gay a christian although I dont believe you are allowed to have sex with your partner. At that point I think your in trouble but I believe you can still repent for your sins. Although i really dont believe its a sin you should love who you want.
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I am a Christian but I am not a homophobic bigot like everyone classifies us under. So...if you're willing to listen, I will give you my opinion. being gay, is a sin, which is obvious. God intended for man and woman to be together to balance each other out and reproduce, to "spread the seed" to eventually crush the head of the serpent (the devil). To answer your question about can you be a Christian and gay.. that is something I have struggled with for years!!! I always grew up knowing that the one way to heaven was through Jesus, if you believed that Jesus was 100% man and 100% God, Jesus came to die for our sins, rose 3 days later and is now living eternally with his father, God, then you were saved. But, also if you live in sin, which being gay and acting upon it is...then no you will not go to heaven because you know the rules, but you are choosing to disregard them and live by the rule(s) you set for yourself. And if you do not go to heaven, you are not a Christian. so, through breaking everything down and really analyzing and debating and countless hours of researching and frustration, I have come to the conclusion, the heart breaking conclusion, that no...you cannot be gay and still be a Christian. Now, saying that...I do not think any less of gay people. I love everyone equally, as does Jesus. Jesus loves everyone, whether they believe in him or not....but he will only let those who dedicated their lives proclaiming their love for him right on back. Some people say that is not loving (not letting someone live in heaven just because they do not love you) but if you look at it, it is completely loving. If your one request is for someone to love you unconditionally like they love you, and you don't..you cannot expect to be allowed to live in the palace. That is not fair. Now, looking back at your question...I don't know what type of answers you were getting from these other Christians, but you said how it was not the answer you were looking for. I'm sorry, but I don't think mine is particularly the answer you were looking or hoping for either, but at least you got an answer that you do not think of has being hateful or spiteful in anyway. I am simply telling you the facts, it is all up to how you take them. I wish you the best, I really do and if you want to talk about this more, id be more than happy to!! :)