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So I have a good question for you all. Maybe not everyone is this way, but have you ever had an issue a problem that no matter how many times to attempt to fix it and confront the issue (as in repeating mistakes over and over) and do not learn from it, no matter how hard you try to fix the damage you’ve done to try to protect your precious bridges and move forward together. Making the same mistake in the future unwillingly unaware of it, but in a way aware of the issues in a slight way knowing that your carnal and animal desires get you every time. — I know this is beginning to sound very redundant.

But what if the person is tired of trying to fix the damage done from the mistakes and problems that just keep recurring and tired of hearing people tell him to “try to be honest and loyal to one person” or “dont you love me?” “you choose, me or her” At what extremity does a human being stop trying to fix things always and putting others before himself and their feeligns before his that he can no longer even attempt his own desires? Should he give up trying to fix the problems and move on with the broken bridges and the burning pain to learn from it more?

Is there really any lesson to be learned if he keeps making the same mistakes over and over? Or perhaps there is something about his soul and personality he needs to learn more about? Or is it the people he puts himself around, indeed I can go much deeper with this but.

The real question I am asking is: Realizing you keep repeating a mistake and hurting people unintentionally because of your own hedonistic ways or dis-concern for others feelings (even though he always tries to fix others bridges and tries to make sure hes on good standing with them over and over again he breaks these bridges and causes these mistakes), because he wants to fulfill his own desires and feelings of pleasure. Should he just stop trying to fix these bridges and learn the hard way? Or should he try to confront the issue knowing what the end result may carry in? Even if he does not fix the bridges and is left alone, how is it guaranteed he will try to improve his mistakes again..?

Any thoughts or opinions maybe words of advice?

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Tags: asked January 6, 2014

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So you keep cheating on the women you're seeing and while you try to make amends with them after the fact, the idea of not putting your penis in another women is so alien to you that you can't even consider it to avoid hurting the feelings of the people you claim to love.

Is that you Kris? I know you always had a flair for purple prose (that one Star Wars rewrite you did was horrible BTW, Nakain? Really?) but this is beyond the pale.

Speculation that you're my horrible ex boyfriend aside, dude, stop. Just. Stop. There are a few explanations for your behavior, but none of them are that you're a poor, persecuted man who is constantly forced to repeat his own mistakes due to his tragic hedonism. Sorry, you're not a Shakespearian tragic hero, I hope you can cope with this revelation.

Frankly, it sounds like you don't respect the women you're with. If you can't stop yourself from making a choice (and yes, you ARE making a choice) that you know will hurt someone (and yes, you DO know) indicates that you simply don't care that they'll be hurt. You could also be attempting to soothe some repressed need for affection from your childhood. Maybe you're just an asshole who can only muster enough fake-empathy to get a girl to date him.

You are making these choices. You could stop them if you wanted to, but you don't want to. Stop avoiding responsibility and accept that your actions are yours and yours alone.