What do you find comforting?

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I have been having nervous break downs lately over “what if’s” and I can’t take my mind of them. I would like to know anything. Like music, activities, books, shows, ect. whatever helps you take your minds off things and relaxes you.

asked January 11, 2014

12 Answers

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A room just cool enough to justify tucking under a freshly-washed blanket. Dimmer lighting, complete silence, a soft scent that isn't overwhelming, one or two people for ideal company, a little bit of comfort food, a few good stand-up comedian acts followed by time spent with friends imitating the comedians, followed by a home-cooked meal with enough for seconds and a soft, freshly-washed pillow.

That's comfort.
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Music, especially anything by Smashing Pumpkins or Vampire Weekend. The two best songs I use to comfort myself are "Thirty Three" by Smashing Pumpkins, and "Hannah Hunt" by Vampire Weekend...Though, "1959" and "Something Fast", both by The Sisters of Mercy, help me tremendously.Another thing that really helps me is writing. I write stories to calm myself, I write how I'm feeling. To be honest, when I'm having a panic or anxiety attack is when I'm most creative, and I come up with my best ideas. The only downfall to that is that I have to write them down or I will forget, due to the fact that I will literally forget the last hour that happened because of the freaking out...And one last thing that helps me, no matter what, is my dad. I'm usually really mad at him...:P But when I feel bad, he's always there for me. I still occasionally have hallucinations/hear voices, and when I do, he always makes sure I'm ok.
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a nice hug or tea/coffee and someone to talk to or just laying down for a bit listening to music? :)
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Personally, the scent of pine, being in a place where I can be alone surrounded by plants, where I can peacefully meditate. That brings me absolute peace, and with it, comfort. More than anything, personally, I find scents to be the most effective when you'd like a mood adjustment. Even more potent than music (which is a pretty large part of my life), more potent than any kin of food or flavor, more potent than any sort of scene or surrounding. Scent; it's entrancingly potent. I suggest finding a scent that helps you to feel at ease, something that helps you relax. Relaxation and comfort are closely related, so if you can find a scent that relaxes you, it will be much easier to bring yourself to a place of comfort.
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Sometimes it's not about getting your mind off things, but getting your mind to zero in on that thing itself and get it off your chest. If I have a whole bunch of "what ifs" swimming in my mind, I'd get two nice cups of hot drinks, pillows, low lights and soft music, and most importantly... a true friend.We'd then have a talk about it, with my friend not as the advisor, but to help me reflect and increase my own self-understanding to what I can do next instead of floating on uncertainty. Then, I'd probably complete it with a hug. Big nice long 15 minute hug with no talking in between.Well I used friend here, but of course having a partner to do this would be awesome.
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Im comforted with science actually. Its weird, i know, but sometimes doing research and just learning about the human mind and body makes things better.
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A moment of loving-compassion meditation here and there helps.
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I just block everything out and try to think of somewhere peaceful. I think of an empty dirt road in the woods during fall. The temperature just cool and warm enough to have to wear jeans but you can still wear a tshirt. It's silent except for the sounds of birds and the light is warm on my face. That's what do...
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A little bit of music and reading helps, but sometimes I just gotta crack open a beer and calm myself down, then I think a lot better. Might get some hate for that but.. idc.
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There were quite a few answers here and I didnt see all of them so pardon me if Im repeating anyone. Well, firstly take a few deep breathes with your eyes closed and a smile on your face :) After that you have the following few options -Call up a best friend, as in someone who you love and they love you back equally, if not more. And just talk random shit. Get your mind off things.Find a book series from genre that you like and start reading it, since there are multiple books, it will keep you going.Find an artist you like, download their complete discography and listen to it. Or just video hop from one song to another on Youtube.You could also try writing. Any form. It can be poetry, random stories, journals, fictions. ANYTHING you want :DGo out and play a sport that you enjoy, basketball maybe or swimming?There is so so much to do. Always, just gotta get creative *wink*
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Listening to ambient/instrumental music and lying in the dark can help. You might just fall asleep though. I also like to call people on Skype calls, just to listen to them talk. Silence is fine, because I can still hear them typing, or static. Stuff like that comforts me. Just knowing that they are there, and I am not alone.
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Thank you all for these great tips and everything you answered is very helpful. Thank you for your time