What do you do when things fall apart and you can not hold onto something? Any ideas?

As a 40-year-old mom and teacher I can relate to this! I agree with Moonshine...a new hobby is always good. So take some time and evaluate what your interests are and learn more about them. In addition, take a more proactive role in your interests. Instead of looking at things in magazines and on the computer...go out and try things. It’s surprising how much livelier your lifestyle can get if you just disconnect that tether to your computer screen once in awhile. Also, don’t be afraid to try your hand at more than one thing: the more skills you learn, the more well-rounded you yourself become. You’ll also never know when those new skills you learn will come in handy. And it will definitely give you that spark back :)

I think what is happening, is that you are growing. I do not mean by age, but by personality. What you need to do is to look things from a different perspective. You say that you used to have creative ideas and more energy, perhaps that is not what you need at the moment. Comparing your current time to the past will always be wrong. You should try to find happiness in wherever you are. You can find a new hobby or do more things as suggested above, but I feel that what you need is to find happiness in yourself. I believe that the happiness you used to find in doing different things and hobbies, is around you somewhere. Try to find that feeling of satisfaction in yourself.Things you can do, 1. Write a diary. And if you are more high-tech and all, then you may consider a blog, or perhaps write a diary on Word or something. 2. Meditate. Nothing religious (or if you are religious then you may do that is you want to). But here I mean that you should find a calm place and just stop thinking. Take a long break. Life is not always full of energetic events. What you need is to see that. 3. perhaps I am wrong, and maybe you are just tired of doing the same things over and over again. Then you should pause, and write down five different places you want to travel. And then, travel.Good luck!

The weight of the world is on your shoulders and it's heavy. You're probably carrying more responsibility than you ever have in your life. You're not so easily distracted by shiny things at this age so it's easier to dwell on your challenges. There are probably good reasons for you to be a bit tired of life.

However, there is a good chance your physical state is influencing your emotions. It could be a health issue, you may need more exercise or you might be missing something from your diet. Even if it's not a fitness/health issue, you'll be better equipped to handle things if you're in better shape.

- See a doctor, if you can
Tell your regular doctor how you're feeling and ask for help. She should have suggestions that could make a real difference.

- Exercise
You may be athletic but most middle aged people are working long hours in an office and don't get a chance to exercise. Physical activity is good for your mind as well as your body. Many recent studies point to the benefits for stress and depression and find they are as good as or better than drugs.

Get out and walk every day. Do something that makes you sweat and makes your heart pound for 20 minutes 3 times a week. Commit to doing something fairly easy (don't make yourself sore) for 30 days and see how you feel.


- Take a daily multivitamin
You may be deficient in some vitamins and minerals and a multivitamin could help. It won't do much if you're already meeting your nutritional needs but if you have a typical American diet you may find some supplements restore some of your energy.

- Eat better
Exercise is step #1 but once you're doing that you can look at your eating habits. If you're overweight you'd be surprised at how much younger you'll feel once you drop a few pounds.

Dieting doesn't work, though. You'll need to change your habits to succeed long term. Portion control and calorie tracking is the most reliable method. Programs like Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig really help some people. Others have better luck doing it on their own with websites and iOS/Android apps to help them manage their eating and exercise.

Good luck and let me know if you'd like a recommendation on websites/apps for food tracking and exercise.

Might sound silly but what about a new hobbie? Can give you something to look forward to and you could meet new people through hobbies.

I agree, go out and do things! Find a hobbie, explore different things, and for the most part, have fun!

That's true a new hobby is always good but every day I struggle to hold on to something and a reason why to live. It might sound funny but simply living life to your fullest and looking at how beautiful life is is my way to get out of bed each day.. sometimes you miss out on the simple things in life like a smile.