I have a best friend of 12 years. Her mother is like a second mother to me. I just found out that her mom has been stealing money for a really long time. I don’t want it to be true, I don’t want to believe it, but I know that it’s true. My friend has no idea. I was told not to tell anybody. But SHOULD I tell her? Or would that just make it worse for everybody? But if she finds out that I knew about it and I never told her, I can lose a very good friend. I am so conflicted right now, and I can feel her slipping away. She’s the greatest friend ever and she might lose her mom. What do I do?
When she was 21 she stole from a bank she worked at. A few years ago she stole from a restaurant she worked at. Currently, she's stealing from a very rich family but she used to be close to them. The man is a very well known lawyer and knows about it. The daughter doesn't know anything. She also believes that the jail time spent from stealing from the restaurant was false. I don't know what the mother told her. But I love the mother a lot too. I'm still in denial with it all. And the cops aren't doing anything about it.
It sounds to me like her stealing money has nothing to do with your friend, so you really have no need to tell her. But it might be a good idea to talk with her mother privately about it. If nothing else, talking it out with her could at least clear your conscience.
Hi , unless you've come to a conclusion : Her mother might be trying to make some extra money for her daughter . Not only that , but if there was a person who was supposed to tell her , then the mother has first rights .
If it could come down to losing your friend if you don't tell her, I would tell her just because she's a long time friends and friends don't keep secrets. But on the other hand, how do you know your friend doesn't already know and isn't telling you? If I were in the situation, I'd keep to myself about it.