I’ve been told how attractive my sibling is compared to me and told I should strive to be just like them. I’ve been trying my entire life to create my own path and not be anything like them but now that I’m hearing it from my own partner it’s made me feel extremely self conscious as well as made me question myself after I’ve worked so hard to lose weight and make myself look good. Or so I thought. I don’t want to eat. I feel unmotivated and I don’t even want to look in the mirror. My pride vanished. I wish that I could for once in my life be told I’m as beautiful as them. Just once.
believe in yourself,....and be proud of your accomplishments you have worked hard to achieve.....what you can do is either ignore all that drama, and walk away , or speak up and let thoes shallow losers know that they are indeed shallow losers ,....or come up with a snappy come back line.....let them know have canceled your scription because you don' t need the issues,... or you could tell them your bags are not packed to take that trip,.....it sounds like you are an easy mark for them to pick on,...Come on now, you know you are better than that, and you can do better than them.....you need to take the courage and commitment that changed your life physcialy and bring it up to your brain and carve out a new stronger way of thinking.. ....i know you can do it, i truely do.:)
Ah yes, the old comparison game that turns friends and siblings into your competition and in the end makes nobody happy - you're feeling insecure and not good enough and the other person is suffering from resentment and envy. I would suggest to just not play it - find out what you're good at, find out what you like about yourself, and then focus on that. That's what makes you YOU, what makes your friends like YOU. And next time something says you should be more like your sibling don't put them down, down put yourself down, just tell them you're proud of your brother/sister but that you're looking for your own way. You don't need to be "as beautiful as them", you can be beautiful in your own way. And it's never a good sign if your partner makes you feel bad about yourself; it would make me question whether I really want to be with that person. Everybody deserves to be loved for who they are.
I have learned... never compare yourself to someone. It will only get you into a depressive state. Trust me... I've been on depression medicine for years. When it comes to comparison I do understand. My older brother signed up into the military and is now a Lt. Colonel working at the Pentagon. However, I didn't go to college or exert myself right after high school and faced tons of conflict on how much better he is than me. You know, everyone is their own person. If your partner thinks that you should be like your sibling... then he/she isn't the partner for you. Just my opinion.
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