What Defines Me

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I’m a senior in college about to graduate with a degree in chemical engineering in a few months. I worked my ass off to get here. I devoted every aspect of my life, every single cell in my body towards education. Everything that is me is School. My education is all that defines me and nothing else. Despite my hardest efforts I’m not a 4.0 student. Actually my GPA is only a 2.8, and in the engineering job market I’m barely worth 2 cents compared to smarter ppl. I put my entire life into getting this degree just to have it spit on by employers. If I cant get a job after getting this 5 year degree then that means all of this hard work was for nothing and deciding to go to college was one big mistake. If I’m going to get this degree just to end up working at Walmart anyway, then that means I’m a born Loser who will always fail at life no matter how hard i try. If I cant get a good job then that means I’ve failed myself and everyone who believed in me, and honestly I’m not gonna live with myself if it comes down to that. I’m sick of this shit, and I’m not about to live a meaningless life; I’d rather not live at all. Because after all this there’s nothing left to define me, so i may as well not exist.

Category: Tags: asked February 7, 2015

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I can see that education is very important to you and that you really want to have a job that you'd consider good. However, I wouldn't say that defines you. You're more than your education and more than your future job. You're you and there's a sea of options out there. Your hard work won't go to waste. You learned things, new things. If you were to work at walmart, that wouldn't make you a loser. Nobody should think of themselves as a loser because of a job or the lack of one. If you keep believing in yourself and you fight to get somewhere, then you will get somewhere. It looks like you're building your entire life on a future job. It's good to have a clear plan in front of your eyes, but don't let it define you. Try to see what else there is in life. Your life doesn't have to be pointless if you don't want it to be. If you want a meaningful life, then make it count. Even if you can't get the job you want, you can still make it count. Keep an eye on other options. Don't concentrate too much on one pathway, try to see which other pathways there are.
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You just need to remember that acquiring best jobs doesn't need your degree alone. Learning doesn't end in school, but instead you should try to find some minor job that is quite related to your degree. Don't think about the big salary first, but instead focus to experience. And being not confident about yourself is not preferable in getting your desired job, "But I'm not that good as the other engineers?" Then you must make steps and priorities on how you should be like them as possible. School gives you theories and concepts, but at the end it's all yours on how you should use them...
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Hay bud, let me tell you something real quick. Having grades and papers alongside your name is very much a good thing. You will most prob get a job faster that someone that does not have those grades or papers.Also another thing bud, you cannot control life, i mean you can have all the papers you want, but if the Boss is full at the moment and cannot hire anyone, then it is like that. But that does not mean you should give up, keep on searching.I for example am a Engineer myself (Fitter & Turner, Welder ECT ECT) i DONT have qualifications at all. No papers nothing.....and im proud to say i got a job in Engineering, and i am very good at it, and i will gladly challange anyone that does have the papers just to show that even though i dont have those papers, i am still badass.But dont get me wrong, i walked in knowing NOTHING, i trained myself to be the BEST.Thats all you need to do. Start believing and have pride in what you do, cause once you have it, no one will ever take it away from you.All in all what i am trying to say is. What does it matter if you get the papers or not??? If your good at what you do, your good. No one will ever take away from you what you know
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1. After college, everyone remains jobless for a little while. There are all kinds of reasons for that : you apply in companies that don't need anyone at the moment, you apply at the same time as someone who has more experience, etc. etc. Keep looking, no matter what. There will be an opening but don't give up after a few months of searching ! Also, at first, you might not get your dream job, but that's ok. Go for something interesting where you can learn on the field and where you have opportunities to evolve, but don't try to start at the top because, yeah, you will have just gone out of school !

As cali said, it would be great if you could already gain experience in the field that interests you. I don't know how much time you got to take a small job but consider doing it if it's possible + during your vacations, try to get an intership in a company related to the field that interests you. Experience is key in resumes.

I know how our jobs have become our lifes lately, but it does not have to be that way. Of course, it still takes a great part of your time so it's best if you like it, but don't let it be the only reason your alive. Have hobbies, find other goals in life apart from your studies and your work, that will give more taste to your life whether you get your dream job or not.

You won't end up working at Walmart. You seem smart and hard working. If you're smart and hard working while looking for a job, you'll be fine. Remember to make sure your resume and cover letter are nicely done, that they enhance all your qualities and that you show why you want to work for that company and why they would be right to hire you. Your resume should be clear, easy to read, and well-organised. Try to do something nice and not just list your experiences plainly. Prepare your interviews. There are a few things that employers always ask and there are another few things you can guess they will ask according to the job your trying to get (they will try to see if you have the qualities and qualifications necessary for the job and they will try to see if you have proved to have them before so learn to tell about your experiences in that sense). Don't give up. If a company does not answer to you, send them anothr email a few days later saying you already applied for a job, did they recieve the email ? If the answer is no, try again a few months later.

Good luck !
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First of all, no one is born a loser. You also went into college and to mention you are graduating. That itself is an achievement. And if you don't want your 5 years of hard work and effort go to waste, make a move. It all comes down to your hands in the end. You, yourself is the one going to make yourself successful, with some help from others of course, but you're the one in charge of your future. Being in college and graduating is a great great achievement. You should give yourself a credit for making it through, others were barely passing. You can do it! You'll be fine, believe in yourself a little more :)
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You are what you love


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