What are ways to open up?

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My boyfriend often gets upset because i mask my feelings and wont tell anyone. I want to change, but im afraid because i don’t believe im worth the time or effort. He yells at me because i don’t open up and it bothers me because i hate asking for help. How can i ask for help and open up without causing too much stress on myself or someone else?

Category: asked April 29, 2014

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Hey, it's okay to be introverted! Not everyone is great at depicting their feelings or being quite open. However, there are small steps that you can take to be more open to others. However, what is putting you back from opening up to others? Is it trust issues or perhaps you cannot connect on a relate-able basis with some of your friends? If that is the case then you may want to join certain activities such as art, music, or sports (the list can go on) where people have similar interests as you. There is always a chance that within a group you'll be able to bond with someone. Once a friendship is established then you can freely and openly communicate with one another. Therefore you can alleviate your stress levels because you'll be able to openly talk with someone who is similar to you. Know this, you ARE worth it and it's okay to ask for help especially if you reciprocate the action on to others. I believe your boyfriend is just concerned as it is not good to always pent up your feelings. When opening up just make sure you're comfortable with whoever you're confiding too and you can trust them. A friend will always be willing to help another out as long as you ask for it.
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i agree with Knockdowncrazy but I want to add one thing to their answer. You need to tell your boyfriend that its hard enough to open up without him yelling at you for it. he needs to understand that it takes time to open up, that he cant just snap his fingers and you open up. I'm in your exact place right now but iv made a great friend and i tell her everything and she helps me. if your boyfriend cares enough then he will easy up a bit. he cant keep pushing you like that or you are just gonna keep things in.