What are some positive coping skills to use?

Try and find something that really interests you. Reading, listening to music, doing yoga, exercising, art as Raven said. Anything. When you feel that you are starting to get worked up, go for a jog. Or get a punching bag. Those can help a lot too. It allows you to relieve frustration in a safe manner.

sad/depressed/unhappy? -try something slow and soothing, like taking a nice hot bath -light a candle or spray something that smells nice (stimulating your senses takes your mind off of the bad things) -listen to calm music -call/visit a friend (being alone while youre upset is NEVER good, even though it is a natural instinct to isolate yourself)feeling numb/want to feel alive? -squeeze ice really hard in your hands -slap a tabletop really hard (the stinging helps with the urge for pain) -snap your wrist with a rubber band -focus on your breathing (meditation)wanting to see blood? -draw on yourself with red pen in the place where you want to cut -paint on yourself with red and then get in the bath (the paint turns the water red, making it look like a pool of blood)i really hope this helped. its not fun wanting to hurt yourself, trust me, ive been there.