What am I to do?

is she happy in her current relationship? if so do you lo her enough to let her be happy in this relationship? does she have any idea how you feel?I personally could never make the long distance thing work. but if you think you can power to ya!id have to say you need to let her know how you feel....and take it from there....if she doesn't feel the same way are you prepared to still be a friend and be there for her?

I don't know if she is or not. I personally think she alluded to being unhappy several times in the past, but she seems excited to go. Friends of mine who have seen me with her say that it's painfully obvious that she likes me, but I don't know about that. Would I let her stay in this one? If she's happy. Yes. I couldn't take that away from her no matter how I feel. Even if that means I'll remain unhappy. As for knowing how I feel. I've dropped hints, and I've made some big moves (For me. Since we're so similar I assume that she recognizes that). I think she either suspects something, or she knows. I don't know for sure.I have moral issues with telling her how I feel because she's in a relationship. I wouldn't want to damage anything there already, and I wouldn't want her to leave someone else for me (What's to say she won't do the same for someone else later on?). I would want their relationship to decay naturally. I want it to be her choice, without me having to intervene. I wouldn't want to do that, and I wouldn't want to put that on her.If she doesn't. Again, it'll hurt, but I would still be there for her as a friend. That way I could still be in a position to make her life better in some areas, even at the expense of my happiness.This kind of stuff has never worked out for me. I would like it to just this once.

If you are fairly close with her then you could probably ask her things about her current relationship. Reading the above comments it's good that you will still be there for her as a friend. I wish you luck!

@BaltoHonestly, I'm terrified of doing so. I can speak to her about past relationships with no problem. Same with what she looks for in a person (same things that I do, basically), and how she feels about things like love, but it's painful to be reminded of the fact that she's with someone.I'll always be there for her, so long as she wants me to be.And thank you!

@limitless She has a boyfriend though. There's only so much I can do because of that. I don't know what to think. She does a lot of stuff that makes me think she likes me, and I respond in kind, and she seems to like that. Stuff like texting me in the morning, and wishing me luck on things I've mentioned like, once or twice. She remembers a lot about me, and takes the time to talk to me, a lot.As for taking it slow. I think you should always take things slow in a relationship, and I want to. Also, I've thought of every single factor, long and short term (I have a tendency to do that). The age gap, I know it'll have some complications, but it's nothing I'm not willing to work through. As for me being "only 22," I'm sorry to say, but I never had the chance to have a childhood. I matured and grew up faster than everyone around me. So my own mentality on the situation isn't so much of a concern. Most of my friends are actually in their 30s and 40s. I only have a few that are closer to my age, so everyone around me is either married, engaged, or have children. It's something I'm very used to. It's very difficult to explain who I am, actually. The biggest one for me is my career. I need to work to catch up with people ten or twenty years ahead of me. But, I'm doing a very good job of that right now, and I only show signs of fast, and significant progress. Thank you for your thoughts though.

If it were me I would avoid her to avoid getting hurt. If she asked me about it I would be upfront about it and say I like you which is why I can't talk to you any more. I'm sorry. And let that be that.

@Vivid Melody I can't do that. In all honestly, I would rather suffer, and be there for her as a friend, than to cut myself out of her life. I can do more good for her that way. I'm used to being hurt, so the pain is something I can deal with. I just hope it doesn't turn out that way. Thank you though.