was I just friendzoned?

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I just found out the girl I like who happens to be my best friend is now dating one of our mutual friends…. normally this wouldn’t really bother me but just last week when I told her how I felt (we had a couple small flings a few months back) she said she had feelings for me too. I’m just really confused and frusterated. You guys have any advice,tips,or tricks to help? Much appreciated

Category: Tags: asked July 24, 2014

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I understand that you must feel very confused about what this girl really thinks about you. You've had small flings before, last week she told you that she has feelings for you too and now she is suddently dating another guy. It is not necessarily a fact though that she has friendzoned you. It seems to me that she is unsure about her feelings, that she is a bit confused and haven't quite made up her mind about what she really wants at this point in her life. I believe the only thing you can do is to talk to her and ask her to be honest with you. Did she mean what she said about having feelings for you? Has she changed her mind? Tell her that you feel a bit frustrated about not knowing what she really feels and ask her to tell the truth, whatever it may be. Maybe she can't give you the answer you want right now, if she doesn't know herself what she wants. But at least it might make her realize that it's a bit unfair to say she has feelings for you and the suddenly move on to another guy without explaining anything. You deserve to know what's going on. Good luck, I hope this helps.
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Maybe she is confused and doesn't know what she wants, She might have feelings for you but she doesn't want to ruin the friendship.You could ask her and tell her how you feel about the situation and that it's confusing you.I hope things workout.
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Contrary to popular opinion girls don't actually 'friendzone' boys!! Like we view boys as friends but we won't like refuse to be with them because we were friends with them or saw them as a friend at first it's all about just whether or not she's attracted to you as more than a friend (which as you said you've had a couple of flings she must see you as slightly more than just a big standard untouchable 'friendzoned' case). Most girls will be friends with a guy before she dates them it's normal
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