Umm Alright so I am a teenager and well I’ m messed up , I have no TRUE friends !

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Can’t find one right now coz I have to focus on studies for 2 years atleast Buht , I feel alone and sad and after my best friend betrayed me I have no one and my marks are in the dumps (6 months have gone by ) I have friends just no true ones and I Just feel alone ! I can’t cut every time !

Category: Tags: asked September 24, 2013

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I have gone through the same thing, and the best thing you can do is really focus in your studies and be your own friend. Self harm wont help you, just because one person can't see what a great person you are, doesn't mean you aren't. We have to learn to love ourselves. Good friends will come to you, I promise.
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True friends take time and effort to establish and grow. You just need to be true to yourself and constantly throw that out into the world. Eventually like minded people will be pulled toward you and that alone feeling will fade away. Concentrating on improving your school work will probably bring some satisfaction into your life that will no doubt leech out into the more social aspects of your life as well. Just hang in their and try to stay positive.
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It's always a bit of quality not quantity. Focus on studies and take some time in between to get out there and make some friends, contact old ones or join a youth group. Don't harm yourself over something so simple, in the future you will realise it was a mistake to do so. Best of luck, I know you'll do great in everything
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Alright, let me start off by telling you one thing: you are not alone. It's not possible to be completely alone. Human beings are social creatures, as well as dedicated parents. I don't know about your home situation, but if you have a parent they actually can help you. Depression not only has genetic markers but learned, imitable behaviors that can make you depressed. If possible, talk to your parent of the opposite gender. Freud is famous for a reason, and some bonding with your parents can only do you good.
Second: If you really are cutting yourself, get help from a licensed psychiatrist. Not a psychotherapist, but a psychiatrist. The best way to go about it is to get a referral from your primary care provider to see a good one, which will allow most insurances to cover some or all of the cost. A psychiatrist has the training and knowledge to diagnose and treat mental illness. He can determine whether you are experiencing a depressive disorder, a personality disorder, or just a "blue" period.
Third: Whatever your faith, if you have one, let it help you. A good religion will always support those who need it, but church leaders, priests, or whatever your religion has are not psychic. Your peers in church, even if they don't know you, can help.
Fourth and last, the most important thing that helped me: Are you allowing other people to become your friend? If you're brooding, if you're upset all the time, if you have your own personal raincloud, it makes you unapproachable. This makes it to where you become depressed, which makes you unapproachable, etc. The cycle is a pain to break, but if you do break it, it's like a massive weight just vanishes.
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You don't need friends to make you happy. You can just accept yourself the way you are. I had a best friend that left me a while back, (actually like a month ago) but i'm learning to accept that whatever happens has happened for a reason, so i know you'll meet someone worthy of being your friend :)