Three week ago, my high school sweetheart reached out to me and we spent a lot of time chatting back and forth via Facebook since then. We got together one evening for a baseball game and some drinks and ended up talking till 3am in the morning. I crashed on her couch, woke up the next morning, we talked some more, then left. As I left, we embraced in a hug that lasted way longer than a friendly hug.
–I am recently divorced, May 2012. Relationship lasted 6 years.
–She ended an Engagement in Nov 2010. Relationship was 8 years.
–We have both dated and slept with other people in between all of our relationships.
–We dated 5 years in and after highschool. Her father ended our relationship at the time due to the fact that we were fighting a lot. Hormones, different colleges, etc.
In week 1, she never mentioned a boyfriend. In week 2, she mentioned it, but said it was only a 6 week thing. In week 3, she confided in me that she’d actually been with him for over a year.
It is clear that there are mutual feelings involved. I approached her about what this reunion was and she told me that she wasn’t sure, was trying to figure out her emotions and needed time. She told me to “not rule anything out, but not to plan on something more”. Later I found out that she considers me to be a “backup plan”.
Question: I do care for her a lot and we have amazing chemistry. Should I ask her to make a decision on her emotions and give us a chance or step back and stay in the friend zone until she figures things out on her own time (VERY tough)? Am I wasting my time?