So I met this guy named David around my birthday, which was around 2 months ago. I had known him before that because he’s in one of my classes. But he started to talk to me around my birthday. I had already had a crush on him, ask any of my friends. We began to hang out and now we hang out all the time. I’m friends with a lot of his friends now, and god I enjoy spending time with him so much. He flirts constantly with me, calls me “baby,” etc, and we’ve had sex and it’s never awkward between us, which is completely awesome. We like all of the same types of things. But now I’m starting to get really confused and it’s starting to stress me out hardcore. He has yet to ask me out, like we’ve talked about it. And everyone constantly asks if we’re going out. But we hung out this past Saturday, and things just felt..different. We kissed, but not like/as much as usual. Things just felt different. And today we saw each other in school multiple times but only talked once. And we’ve barely texted; and I am completely psyching myself out. This is, to be honest, my first “crush.” Every guy I’ve come to like, I began to like after we had begun to go out. And God, it’s so overwhelming and I’m hardcore overthinking. From a guys perspective what would you say he’s acting/feeling? And from a girls perspective how do I deal with this? It’s adding so much more stress to my life, and school’s already getting to me hardcore.
I'm told that if he wanted to "date" you he would have asked. You gave away the goods before any commitment and it appears that was fine by him. He likely doesn't want to be exclusive and may continue to come around whenever he wants to get some. Friends with benefits is what it sounds like. I'd confront it, better to know so you aren't in the dark. Self preservation, protect your heart. Don't give it away to someone who isn't worthy. Follow your intuition
Let's face it saying: 'I want to date you, can we be exclusive" is hard. You're going to have to talk to him it's not easy but sometimes you've got to put your big girl panties on and deal with it. But you don't know what's going on his personal life. Don't rule out things at home are bad and he just isn't in the mood to talk before you worry something is wrong. Dating, especially when you're so young, isn't easy. It gets better but you've got to be willing to talk and open up that communication.