trust

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i don’t like it when i’m forced to share a bed with someone ( not a euphemism, actually sharing a bed when sleeping). i don’t trust anyone, not even my family ( a mother, a father, four brothers), to ya know not touch me (this time it’s a euphemism) while sleeping. what is fucking wrong with me? i seriously have trust issues and i could not trace the roots of my issues since i have had a nurtured and happy life and childhood. is this all in my head or what?

Category: asked August 20, 2013

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I would trust your gut and not let anyone sleep with you. Just because the conscious part of your brain remembers a happy childhood, doesn't mean your subconscious hasn't hidden away bad memories you've encountered at a much younger age.

On the other hand you may have not encountered sexual abuse in the past, but maybe some people just give off a very "rapey" vibe to you.
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I think sharing a bed with someone is something that many people have doubts and issues over, it's an extremely personal thing, you're essentially surrendering your safety by being asleep with someone, even if it is family members. It's something that you'll just have to get past in time, you are obviously a bit more conscious of your worries than most, so it may be more difficult to get past. But you will eventually, a lot of people have gotten a headstart on you, sharing beds with siblings, sleepovers, sleeping with parents at a young age if they are scared, even being in relationships. You're not alone in your feelings, it's just a case of either finding certain people who you feel more comfortable with, or learning to trust, which is a lot harder then it sounds. But you can do it!
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if thats the way you feel, sleep on the floor or in a chair, ...you dont have to justify it to anyone
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I completely understand what you are saying, it's not weird. I mean there is a possibility that there is something that you simply don't remember that has effected the way that you think. But it is more likely that things that you have seen/read have subtly effected your mind more then you think. That is what has happened to me. The world around you has been displayed as being so unsafe that you can't even feel safe in your own bed. I am not sure how to help you with this. I guess you are just going to have to try and build your trust back up again to the point where you can do this.
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thanks a lot guys