First off, I have Allodoxaphobia, which is the fear of confrontation or arguments.
The problem is, I’ve had a guy ask me out recently, and we’ve been close friends for a while now, but I’m absolutely terrified to tell him I don’t want to date him. He has asked me out a while back but when he did, I became so afraid to tell him ‘no’ to the point that I completely pulled away and we didn’t talk for a good 5 months. I don’t want that to happen again, but I don’t know what to do. He keeps sending me messages about how he’d treat me right and such, which I feel makes it harder to tell him.
Every time I talk to a friend about it, they say just tell him straight up. But I can’t. When I think about telling him, I get really scared to the point where I want to cry and go hide. Is there a way to fix this? I really want to stay friends with him so much, but I’m so scared that we’ll have an argument.