I am going to tell you a little about my background to understand the question.
When I was 3 my father left and my mom raised my brother and me. When I was 18 I found my father and we began to talk and now have a great relationship.
I only get to see him once a year or so . I am 23 now and so since I was 18 I have only seen him 6 times. This summer I will see him for the 7th time. We talk on the phone all the time so we have a good relationship.
What I struggle with is being an “adult” when I visit. I am 23 years old and since I did not have a childhood with him when I do see him part of me wants to be a kid. I don’t mean act like one, but not have responsibilities when I visit him. He pays for everything when I am with him and I always bug him to do things like a kid would.
My question is do I have a right to not be an adult when I visit him? Sometimes I feel childish talking to him on the phone about the things we can do when I visit.