This feeling

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Have you ever met someone for the first time and been completely nervous about it but after you’ve spoke for awhile, you’re completely comfortable in their company and you feel like you’ve known them for years?

This has just happened to me and I really don’t know what to do, especially since the guy is avoiding me and not replying to my texts? I think I’m coming off too strong but the conversation we had was amazing and it felt perfect

Category: asked October 26, 2014

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That happened to me recently. I was chatting with this girl from school, writing like 5 lines, she'd reply with 'hahahah' and stuff, and I would think all was going well. I would start asking questions too just to revive the chat once in a while, but at some point it becomes awkward and I realize that I've become too annoying and intrusive.
What I would suggest is to keep your texts very short and to the point (long ones are scary) and not to keep every answer open-ended, otherwise the person will be trapped in the conversation. The more you leave someone free to answer or not, the more their behaviour will show if they really want to talk to you or not.
Also, it's pretty hard to maintain a long conversation without talking too much about yourself (even if it's not narcissism you still steal the attention) or asking too much about him (which can be a bit creepy if not moderated).
More importantly, don't think too much about it and don't try to interpret signs because scenarios in your head are not likely to be what's really happening.
I hope all will go well!
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I think too much attention scares people off. This doesn't mean that your attitude is wrong but sometimes, especially when you're just getting to know someone, it's better to keep some things for yourself and be a bit cautious, even though you would just like to tell them your whole life story. Just think about the fact that it's better to get to know eachother slowly rather than all at once. It doesn't happen very often to have chemistry with someone from the very beginning, so cherish that and try to let go a little!