The word “slut” especially offends me. What are your thoughts on the label?

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I am uncomfortable with women being labeled as sluts because they enjoy having sex. Isn’t that normal? Aren’t we supposed to enjoy it?? I think the word is overused and only seems to apply to women. Can men be sluts? I’m interested in all opinions.

asked November 26, 2014

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The casual use of the word slut is something I usually interpret as the "in" word for whomever is using it -- like someone calling their friends "bitches" or something of the sort, where it the offensive denotation of the word is outweighed by its cool factor. When the word is used as an insult, I agree with you. The person saying it is attempting to shame a woman or girl by insinuating that their having/thinking/knowledge of/inkling of/involvement in/basically any relation to sex is a sign of a defect. That person is wrong. Sex IS enjoyable. It's biologically necessary to want and have sex. I think some people don't realize that, by calling a woman a slut, you attempt to shame her for her basic human needs and desires. I don't think a heterosexual man would be called a slut as an insult -- as a joke maybe, but not as an earnest insult. I think that gay and bisexual men, as well as transgendered individuals, could have the word flung at them with the aim of inflicting great pain. It honestly boils down to denying the right to enjoy sex to the groups which are frequently considered "less" or somehow flawed. But yeah. Sex is enjoyable, and it's perfectly valid to want and enjoy sex regardless of your gender.
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"Slut" is to women what "nigger" is to blacks: it is deliberately disparaging to the entire group. It says that there is something wrong with women who enjoy sex. That is the full measure and meaning of the word, and it is deeply insulting.
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it really annoys me too because its not just because a woman likes to have sex. its about what she wears, or what she says, or what she acts like, or what she talks/thinks about, maybe even what she sings, draws, or writes about. its not even necessarily having sex that gets women labeled as sluts. its everything to do with a woman not acting a certain way. its a restriction. for example, a woman might refrain from drawing a picture of something sexual because she doesnt want to be called a slut. same with if she wants to wear a short skirt that day. etc etc etc. its a complete BS label that is used to try and tell women what they should or shouldnt act like/dress like/think like.
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9/10 times, I'm not a fan of the term slut. Especially when it's just used to describe someone that has a lot of consensual sex with multiple people. I mean, if everybody's up for it and they do it safely then it shouldn't be a big deal. And in that way, I support people that embrace the term and use it to promote sexual freedom.However, I've come to use the word on very few occasions to describe guys/girls that literally try to sleep with people that are already in relationships and don't respect those boundaries. I guess just because I don't have any other word for it besides maybe dickbag or asshole and I wanted to be more specific to the situation. But that's just me.
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I think that the word may have gotten out of hand. I do agree that it is far more widely attached to females than to males. It is an issue of shaming
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In a culture that celebrates men having a lot of partners and disapproves women doing the same, there won't be the same stigma but someone will use that term for a man, yeah, although a man will hardly randomly hear it from a passing car.
In the end it all means someone who has more sex than you approve of (and some people approve only of zero sex), or is used in a spiteful way for someone you don't like regardless of sexual activity, and in this last case there isn't even much space to argue.
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I hate the word slut. When guys use words like trashy and "party girls" to describe women to me I find it really insulting. Especially if they use it to try and compliment me, by saying "you're not like those types of girls" like, are you kidding me? if guys can't stand up for women as a whole I don't want to be associated with them. The word slut is just a bad word.
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Men can totally be sluts! And if "having too much sex" or whatever it is, is the definition of a "slut" then more likely, men would fall under the label anyways.I think people just get very uncomfortable when it comes to talking about sex anyways, and when they find someone who is very comfortable with it, they don't generally like it and often use negative labels for it because they don't feel the same or are uncomfortable.I, however, also think that when it comes to sex labels are always pointed at women in negative ways because somehow we are different than guys... I dunno. I wouldn't let it offend you to be honest. I mean, I get offended but I usually just take it as they are uncomfortable with my sexual confidence so they feel the need to alienate or humiliate me.Hope this helped..
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As a feminist (and a human being, for that matter), words like "slut", "bitch, "whore", etc. offend me. Those labels only apply to women and are only meant to shame women. The only male equivalent for someone that has a lot of sex would be a "player", which is not seen as a bad thing, or you have to specify that they are a "male slut", implying that the word slut is usually only applied to females. Quite frankly, I don't think anyone should fit in to the definition of a slut. Everyone's opinion of what qualifies as "too much sex" will differ, and I agree with you that we should indeed enjoy sex. It's the 21st Century. People have sex. The end.