I think if you really want to express your feelings to her about you, you should just sit down one day when she isn't busy and you both can just talk. It was very hard talking to my family and even some friends but i just keep telling them and telling them and eventually they excepted it and i started therapy. Please be careful with therapy though, it really made me question my judgment. It wasn't easy and you really have to stay with it, if that's what you want to do, and be careful with some of the therapists. Good Lock!!