Suggestions for fighting urges?


…especially self-harming urges. I’ve been having urges constantly. I know a few coping methods but they aren’t working anymore (distraction, mindfulness, sleeping, time, etc..). I’m really trying to fully recover. I’ve never gone this long–It’s been almost 3 months and I feel like I’m going to lapse. Please help me stay on track! Thanks in advance! :)

Category: Tags: asked January 29, 2015

7 Answers

1. Exercise.2. Put on fake tattoos.3. Draw on yourself with washable red marker-then take a shower and wash away your pain.4. Scribble on sheets of paper.5. Write poetry.6. Cuddle with a stuffed toy.7. Be with other people.8. Watch a favorite TV show.9. Post on web boards or try answering other people's posts.11. Paint your nails a new color.12. Go out to see a movie.13. Eating something you can't resist.14. Do your school work.15. Write a letter to someone but never send it.16. Go into chat rooms to talk.18. Play a musical instrument.19. Sing.22. Buy a punching bag (with gloves. Name it. Then, have a visit with Bob when you need to.23. Snap a rubber band (hair band) on your wrist.24. Cover yourself with band-aids where you want to cut.25. Go to the zoo and rename the animals.26. Let yourself cry, even if it is hard.just some suggestions, if you would like more, i do have them.
Congradulations on going 3 months that's big! I believe in you and I want you to know that its gonna be hard, really hard but I think your strong enough to make it and sometimes the best therapy is helping others maybe find other people who are in the same boat and make a support group, or throw yourself into something creative. I think creativity can solve anything that and love hahah that's all you really need...of course sometimes you just have to wait for the urges to leave you but you should also look at whatever is causing your anxiety and try to find a solution to that I'll help you if you want :) STAY STRONG Jasmine!
I'm proud of you that you didn't harm yourself for 3 months already. That's a really great start. There are some alternatives that you can try. Here's a link:
Congrats sweetie!Its wonderful how long you've gone.I've been trying to avoid cutting for 3 years now.I know its hard to not to lapse and i tried alot of coping methods but what really worked for me was to avoid being alone.I found something that i really loved doing and whenever i felt the urge to cut i'd do it.Spend time with friends too,the positive type and family time is great too.It gets better after awhile.Just hold the faith and fight it!
Here are a few suggestions: Find something to do with your hands. Knitting, Drawing, Origami, etc... Get out of the house. Go places. Exercise often. and read nickolaiblahblah's comment. It's very helpful. You can do this!
You can try putting a rubberband over your wrist and snapping it every time you feel like self-harming. A therapist once told me to try holding an ice cube in your hand for a few seconds then releasing it. Do anything you can to distract yourself from those urges. You can do it.
I also will leave this suggestion: Make yourself be engaged with other people. Don't allow yourself to be alone for too long. I say this because when you are alone with your own thoughts for too long, you will start acting on those thoughts. If you can't be around someone, take a walk in the park during a time when there's lots of people around. Hang in there! Stay around your friends and family as much as you can.
THANK YOU SO MUCH GUYS!! I will definitely be using these!! :)