Success or happiness?

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I’m in high-school right now, and I desperately need to get good grades if I’m to reach my goals that I’ve been trying to work towards for years. The problem is, my classes are full of my friends, and if I want them to stay my friends, I have to generally interact with them, which really distracts me. I would hang out with them after school, but I’m always so busy, and the only time I ever get to see them is at school. If I decided to focus on my studies, it would be just like when I was in 7th grade and had no friends. I think I might have been depressed, but I never saw a professional or told anyone about it. My grades were awesome, and I think I was smarter than them I am even now. I was just so sad, and I’m terrified of feeling like that again, but it might be my only option.

Category: asked August 24, 2013

5 Answers

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I too am in high school, and I think I can help here. Having friends and succeeding in life are both important aspects of high school. I believe, for me at least it is important to find a good balance of each; in other words finding a way to balance out social and personal goals. Try to set times and places to meet with your friends so that you can hang with them after school, whether it be at someones house or at the movies; wherever you can feel comfortable. Focusing on your grades is equally important. Good grades will go a long way to getting you into the college of your choice, should you choose to attend one. Find a balance that works, and everything will work out. Hope this helped.
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Happiness breads success. Our grades are important to us all, as our the main relationships in our lives. If they really are your friends, they would appreciate that you want to excel in your studies as well as maintaining your friendships. Maybe you could try reserving one night a week for your friends to do something special? This way, you can spend the rest of the week studying or doing whatever you need to do and still stay close to your fiends while keeping good grades.
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Don't stress too much over your grades, just ask for help if you need it. If you need to balance both your social life and your work, I would advise you to find one of your friends who is in a class that you are struggling in to help you understand the concept better. I think you might find if you equalize your priorities(grades) with spending time with your friends you might become less depressed and worry less about your grades.
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The thing I regret most about high school is not working hard enough. Actually, friends weren't the distraction. I was just lazy and always procrastinated. DON'T PROCRASTINATE. I only had a few friends and they were even more absorbed in getting good grades than I was. Getting good grades is important, not going to lie. It's a very competitive world out there now a days and getting into a good college helps. Unfortunately, I into a college that is no where close to being my dream college. And it all goes back to being lazy in hs and being too distracted by other things. Also, real friends are friends that don't need your constant company in order to still be your friend. But if you do want to still hang out with them, hang out with them only on the weekends and during lunch. Focus on school and DO YOUR HW. What I did to avoid the stress of school work was also take some electives and chill classes that I used to catch up on hw and talk to friends.
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Coming from someone who wishes that he could go back a few years and actually pay attention and learn in school. If anyone is half the friend that they should be, they will still stick around even if you're paying attention in class. School is paid for for you to learn and have a good future dont ruin that for a few friends who arent gonna be there when the going gets tough. As long as tou do your work, turn in homework, pass quizzes and do projects youll be fine dont sweat it. Never underestimate the power of google and articles from .edu sites. You can have friends and accel in school just find the balance!