Stupid high school drama

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So this problem has been bothering me for quite a while now, and I don’t know how to work it out. So it started with me befriending this guy, Mark. We’ve been friends for a long time but kind of recently, we’ve gotten a lot closer despite his girlfriend’s dismay. I do not have any feelings for him, but sometimes he would be very open with his attraction to me but I would cut him off then and there, but we’d still be friends afterwards. However, his girlfriend misinterpreted the situation and then forbade him to talk to me (even to look at me) and she began to tweet really mean things about me, and spread all these nasty AND UNTRUE rumors. Now the people who I thought were my “friends” started to look at me different, they are viewing me as a home wrecker or a bitch.

I have done nothing in retaliation because I don’t know what to do. I’ve talked to other people about this and some advise me to confront the girlfriend and get this straightened out, but I feel like I’m too scared to. Another person advised me to leave it be because the girlfriend would just make a fuss of it, and she would look like the bad guy. I haven’t talked to Mark in three weeks now, he won’t even look in my direction. Now there are people acting really distant to me and trying to avoid me, and I expect that they have been hearing all the lies that have been going around. I understand why the girlfriend is mad but I feel as though I did nothing technically wrong, but I still feel guilty and bad and in general just horrible. I don’t know what to do. I feel more sad than mad about this situation.

Category: Tags: asked April 23, 2013

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If all these individuals have so easily turn away from you, in a time when you need loyalty most, then they are not the type of people you want to associate with, much less call friends. A you said, its stupid high school drama, a place where most have not encountered what life really has in stored for them and thus resort to petty disputes filled with jealousy and envy. It is unfortunate you have to put up with the immaturity, but it would be best not to confront this girl, as she most likely won't have anything positive to say. If she kept the boyfriend (most likely willing to cheat) as opposed to dumping him or confronting him, and also ran your name through the mud, she's probably lacking the intellect necessary to have a rational conversation.Fortunately for you, you've got to see who are your friends and who was just along for the ride. Now you can build something with those left and be better prepared for avoiding the wolves in sheep clothing.
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Confront her. Not online or through mutual friends, but in person. Clearing things up face-to-face will really drop her guard down and she might not even have anything to say to you. It's best to speak when you're both alone. Break down the bully with kindness. Even if she doesn't change her mind about you, at least you'll take this load off your chest and be able to move on.