struggles with bf [gay]

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we’ve been dating for three months and we are really into each other… he is going through an instable period because he is going to graduate soon and wants to study abroad.we argued a bit about some stuff he did that i was not okay with ( that is another problem) but probably i can work on that later…
we did not have sex for two weeks and i feel like it is a lot ( you know feeling less desirable), a part of it, because he had his exams for a week but after that he told me he was stressed about his future and with me being around all the time ( house, phone) he feel the pressure to be there for me and can’t have the time to think. like ” i don’t even find the time to miss you”. he did not say it in the way i am too much present but like he needed me time and with me around he can’t find it cause i often ask for attention while he can’t provide enough right now. he does not really show how he is bothered or stressed he always smily and calm so he is always cool.
the problem is i can’t stand being far from him cause i am very insecure and i am scared that someone will flirt with him, i know he won’t cheat on me but.. and i’m really into him.
i know tough times are delicat cause they can tear people apart or make them closer
so my question: how can i do both, be close to him and give him that space he needs, a pause of three days would be unbearable for me?

Category: Tags: asked November 22, 2014

9 Answers

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I have a question OP, and this will probably answer yours... Do you trust him?
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all of his BFs cheated on him, me too so we both know what it is, so yeah i do trust him... my brain trust him but my weak heart is always overthinking
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I may not be gay but I've had that same problem bro. Do you have anything (besides him) that usually helps you calm down and think?
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Job, studies, since i started dating him i forgo a bit about my friends lol i used to be fine when i am alone, but now it is harder to be alone :/
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Try hanging with some friends. If nothing else it will get you through those 3 days. And when everything turns out fine you'll probably look at this post and laugh at yourself.
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i know ! i did not date a lot so everythime when i am, i feel it is so complicated and involving lol thanks a lot =)
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No probs bro. Anything I can do to help
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Relationships are hard, both near and far. Space can either cement the current or show you both that you have other priorities. Although it will hurt greatly, time will show you the answers you are looking for
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I had the same problem when my boyfriend was graduating. I was always around him and I just wanted to be helpful. But you need to realise he needs some space, this is the time important for his future. Just find some interests for yourself and the time will pass quickly. Don't worry about other people if you trust him. ;)


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