stressed, depressed or both?

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Hey so basically I am super fucking stressed. I have been having practically zero sleep and I am behind in every single subject at school and I am in my final year at school so it actually counts. I am honestly so sad everyday and I feel like I am never truly really happy even when having fun with my friends. I feel it’s so hard to organise my life with school, friends, school work and actual work as well as the little dancing I do and keeping my family happy by keeping my marks up. I have been having several mini breakdowns, for example today I cried because my phone wasn’t recharging and the other day because my library card went through the wash (it was fine btw) but basically I am just not coping at life and I don’t know how to get back on track or what to do and I don’t know what i’m doing or what I’m feeling or just what the hell is going on!!! Please people can you help me!!!

Tags: asked February 24, 2015

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First and most importantly have you told anyone else about this? Have you told your parents how you feel and about your anxiety and break downs? Your family cares about you and will be the biggest help in getting better. Myself and other people I know had phases like this in school and working with your parents or family and seeing a health expert is typically the best solution.
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I'm in the same state looking for work atm. Even if you have anxiety problems or not, it's the struggle for the 3 important things: Social life, good grades/finances and sleep that will always be present throughout your life.

If it's a huge problem and you need immediate relief then just take a deep breath and try to change your perspective on things. There are people in this world that gave up family for massive success. Other people give up any sort of financial security to be 'happy' and 'free'. (not being sarcastic)... Yes of course anything is possible, you can be happy, wealthy, social and be with family but then those things are put under a different light.

You are on track. You are coping. You are just realizing how insanely difficult it is to balance everything at the same time. Neil Patrick Harris said something really relevant - "I enjoy being a hyphenate. I've always thought of my career as a plate spinner in the circus."... And that is basically what life is.

The only reason I can think of that could be causing you to be unhappy, is that maybe you aren't doing what you love, enough. If it's not a tough change, maybe quit your job? Try using that time to dance more or spend more time with friends if that's what makes you happy. You've got to always remember that things like being very social is a choice you make. No one is expecting you to be an outgoing butterfly all the time (I'm just using an example, not saying you are)... People will understand if you skip certain events to either get something important done or keep yourself happy. Happiness isn't necessarily connected to going out with friends...

Something I use to do when I got really depressed or stressed out was sing, Don't Worry Be Happy - from Bobby McFerrin hahaha... It works. Good luck :)
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Thank you @Michael. and @Jaydi your advice has really helped me and cleared a few things up!