staying with my girlfriend

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I’m at her house right now. I’ve known her for 4 years but this is the first time we’ve been together irl since we started dating. Things are going good, I’m just sorta nervous I guess/not sure what to do. We talked a ton before I got here but I guess there’s just sort of a disconnect in my brain between the person I talk to every day online and this girl sitting next to me. Like I know it’s really her but my brain is going “why are you trying to hug this person you’ve met like twice before”. I want to like idk do couple stuff, hold hands or kiss or all the stuff we talked about before I got here but its like I’m suddenly worried she doesn’t want that. I know she’s feeling the same way too, we’ve been joking about how awkward we are.
Idk I’ve never done anything like this before, she’s the first person I’ve ever dated. I worked up the courage to scoot over and cuddle last night and it was awesome but I’m also sort of worried maybe I was bothering her and she just didn’t want to say anything. Idk any advice?

Category: asked March 31, 2014

4 Answers

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I've talked to people who met in person after having met only online, they all said it's weird at first, but they got used to it eventually. There's nothing wrong with asking her if you can/she wants to cuddle or hold hands, or whatever you are hesitant to do.
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Just give it time. The awkwardness will fade and you'll soon be comfortable in each other's presence. Don't worry so much. And don't force anything. It's okay to express your insecurities but don't let them control you.
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Even if you keep thinking it's awkward, it really isn't and there's no reason to feel weird about it. Just push yourself past those feelings and be yourself, act naturally. That's what brought you two together in the first place, right?If it's really bothering you, talk to her about it. It couldn't hurt, and the end result will most likely just bring you two closer together =)
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Go for it, guy!

Dance, tickle her, make a joke so dumb her eyes do backflips, make funny faces in her peripheral vision and straighten your face when she looks straight at you and shake your head like you have no idea what she's looking at, pretend to be a kleptomaniac and gently take things from her hands and stick them in your pockets saying "mine now" and try to keep a straight face, keep propping your arm on her shoulder anytime she stops moving and say "arm rest".

Get creative, man! Have fun and goof off with your girl.