Stay or try anew?

This might sound like a stupid high school problem, and I guess it is… But I wanted to know other peoples opinions as well.
I’ve been at the same school since preschool or kindy. And I have had the same best friend the whole way through. We’ve been through so much, she had cancer twice while I knew her. We have had other people join and leave our pair so, so many times. And we’ve stuck together all the way through. Now… Another girl has joined the pair, and, not as much do I feel left out (although I feel that also), but I constantly notice them judging me, to my face, or being rude or mean. And even if I know it’s not true, it hurts all the same. They steal my things, they damage my stuff, they are rude to me, spread my secrets and are just downright nasty. I want to move to a new group of friends, but after so much? And even though I’m leaving them to hang out with other people, I still get offended when they decide to not invite me to things. I can’t decide wether it’s worth moving groups! It’s probably better for my grades, and my well being in general. But I feel bad, and because they are in most of my classes, they are still rude during class, and they question where I go during lunch and recess etc. they don’t like the people I’m trying to hang out with (they judge everyone so I doubt they’d be happy with me moving to anyone). It feels so stupid, but it’s actually really hard. I’m left out in most of my classes if I choose to move groups, but I just think it’ll be better for me to move. It’s hard… Anyone have any advice?

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Sazwa

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Ask yourself this, would it make you happy to stay or move on? Don't worry about what your "friends" think. Sometimes you need to cut away the poison from your life to get better. And it's better to have one awesome friend, then 10 fake one's who only bring you down. Keep reaching out to people, make some new friends. They're not the boss of you. It's your life. You decide who matters, the people you want in your life that makes you happier, makes you push yourself to do better and improve yourself, that would never make you compromise yourself or trying to change who you are.

"I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone."

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Hearmenow

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You have to move. Because people who always beside you and you never think that they will go someday, will probably go away without telling you why. You know right, people just come and go anytime. You have to do it if you want to have a better life without feeling left out. There are people out there who need you, who will always stay by your side. And the point is, will you stay to keep someone or something who won't do the same thing you do? Not, right? (:

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No One

Well, I'm confused. Is your best friend, the one youve been with through so much, is she also taking part in the secrets, rumors and bullying? Did she speak out against it? Maybe all those people eventually leave your pairing, but apparently she isn't that much of a friend. I'm not trying to be insensitive to her troubles and past in any way, just realistic to the present. Try talking to her. Tell her how you feel. See what she does or says. It won't be easy to move groups if thats what you decide to do either. Joining another group where people are already familiar with one another is very, very hard. Unless you know them. That only makes it slightly easier. I would base everything off of what that best friend of yours says when you talk to her. All the best etc.

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JustASpeck

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