Someone help me stop checking up on my ex social sites?


Im always looking at his Twitter to see if he’s at least talking about me. When I feel like he doesn’t through his tweets, I don’t get mad, sad or feel anything I just move on with my day till I feel like checking again and it’s usually more than 3 times depending on how busy my day was and its driving me craaaaazy because I don’t want to look for someone who probably hasn’t even thought of me since we last spoken/kissed which was 2 weeks ago.

I broke up with him months ago by the way and we got back in contact then I cut it off again after we kissed (stopped texting). PLEASE HELP. I don’t know what to do when I’m bored, bc I check his profile. Even when Im busy I take time to check (not all the time) i need better self control. Advice?

Category: Tags: asked February 9, 2015

5 Answers

You'd probably hope to see how he'd be worse without you. You're only hurting yourself by doing this. It's not good to keep looking back at the past. You need to look ahead of you. It's time to let go. That's not easy to do, but it's better in the long run. Keep telling yourself that you do not need to check his twitter. You do not need to put yourself through that. There are no magic tips to make you stop, you have to find the willpower and you need to realize that you do not need to check his twitter. Don't continue to put yourself through this. You can try to find some distraction to put your thoughts away from it. You could also try to delay it until you can stop. For example, if you feel like checking his twitter, tell yourself to wait an hour. If that hour is over, tell yourself to wait another hour. You can build it up that way until you're ready to stop.
I know how you feel. I've been there before. I didn't want to keep doing this so I blocked him and now I don't think about him anymore. It's better that way
You could try putting a block on your internet to his profile pages on the social media sites he has, just to remind yourself that he isn't part of your life anymore.
I understand, and personal experience I have. You need to have the willpower. Why spend your precious time looking at someone who doesn't talk to you? Do you. Use your time to enjoy and do work/school/etc.Block him. Delete. Ignore.
We stalk our exes because we think we are irreplaceable but there are no irreplaceable people. Sometimes this behavior even reaches the point of absurdity.Thus, every time when looking at the page of your ex, you want to find there evidence of your importance and irreplaceability. I would advise you to stop doing that and maybe get to know new people