Sick of University

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All my life I’ve been heading to this very moment. I was good in school, did my homework on time, sacrificed going out with friends, all to get into a good University. I did it, and I got in to my dream course. My parents have been amazing with getting me settled in, and my boyfriend has as well.
But I hate it. I really hate university. I hate getting up in the morning to go to classes I don’t want to go to, so I’ve started not going to them. I’ve always been a top student, but now I’m getting awful grades, I’m not even sure if I want to pass.
I can’t go back home for two reasons – I don’t want to be viewed as a failure, and I don’t want to leave my boyfriend here by himself.
What can I do? Will it get better? Has anyone else been in this situation before?

Category: Tags: asked November 27, 2013

2 Answers

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I'm a student too. I was also studying very hard for the last three years to get here. And you know what? I have almost the same situation (except skipping lessons): I can't do my homework in time (even for my favourite English classes), I can hardly go from home early enough and obviously get late. I even think that I've chosen the wrong speciality (I wanted to study physics but the main things I have now are chemistry and math) However, I don't give up trying to fing benefits in university and so you shouldn't. Try to remember why did you choose this university and what did you like it for. Imagine, how would your life look after you graduate (optionally, you may also imagine the alternative variant - what will happen if you flunk out) Remember: everything's cool if you believe that everything's cool :) Hope you'll find the good things in your university
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Going off to school is a completely strange and off-putting experience sometimes. When I went (as briefly as I did, but that was for other reasons), I was having so much fun and everything was great, but my best friend had been struggling when he was sure he was going to do so well there. It was all the pressure that had stressed him to the point of breaking, and he ended up getting flunking out and defaulting on his loans for school. I really hope that won't happen to you or anyone, truly. But let's focus on how we can improve your experience. I think you're stressed, and your anxiety is getting the better of you. Next semester, stick it out if you can. Register for classes more relevant to your interests and branch out to see if there are new things you'd like to discover. See if you can set up classes later in the day, rather than earlier. Talk to peer counselors, profs, TAs…anyone who can empathize with your situation and help give you tips and tricks to make your university experience better. Cheers xo