Should this be allowed?

My sister is 15. She is in love with this guy who recently turned 21. They have known each other for over 3 years and shes like him since then. He knows. And he likes her back a lot. They don’t date and don’t do anything because its illegal. They have agreed to wait until she is old enough. They FaceTime/ skype every night and text all day. He does live 6 hours away an they met while on a trip. They are the absolute best friends and they have the strongest love that i have ever seen.
They finish each others’ sentences. They talk about everything and have never fought nor lied to each other. They have plans for the future together and they are the cutest sorta couple i have ever seen. They are a literal match made in heaven. They laugh an they cry together and they can never handle being apart. Shes head over heals for him and he is also. What is your opinion of this? What do you say? I am her older sister. I am only concerned about her.

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BabyDaddyDylan

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it sounds like they're being responsible about it. But i agree with Robin up there.

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Jeanne

It sounds like they're being responsible about this, but they should still wait until she's of age.

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Arlyn

i still wonder what 2 1 year old man has in common with a A15 year old girl

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Robin

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I don't think you should be worried if they're not worried. I was in a relationship (I was 17 and he was 22, also 6hrs away from eachother) and I thought age would be a concern. I always thought he would think of me as a child, but he never did. It didn't concern him so it didn't concern me either. I guess it's not age that matters, but maturity. If your sister and this guy are able to have gotten along so well together for so long, then it's pretty evident that there's no issue with maturity. And I think it's great he's willing to wait for her. That's a good sign that he's a gentleman. I also found that dating someone considerably older than you at a young age helps you mature faster and fend better in the adult world.

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Cici

I agree that they are being responsible, but I share others' concerns that there is a huge difference in their ages at this point in their lives. It sounds like they're in the euphoric stage of a romance, where it's hard to realistically assess whether it's a healthy relationship. And an older guy can be quite dominant and patronizing in a relationship, without either of them realizing it. I would worry and monitor closely too.

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Stubbornly Sane