Should I say something?

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So, I love a boy in my school platonically. He used to suffer from depression and anxiety but has recovered. He gives me a reason to live and helps me believe things get better. Just seeing him at school has helped me a lot with my depression and self harm. I spend a lot of time around him, but not really talking to him since i’m too scared and i make/buy him a lot of things so he might already have an idea… I think I don’t really mind if he doesn’t feel that way to me, but i just want him to know that i love him… and i’m scared he’ll hate me for it, i don’t know why but my anxiety says so.. I really want to tell him how much he means to me and be able to express my feelings more freely but he’s a grade 12 and also my peer tutor (for english) and i’m only in grade 9. i feel like he’s out of my league and he’ll avoid me if i tell him… and he recently got a girlfriend.. but if i explain that i’m an aromantic asexual and i only like him platonically, would it be okay? i want to know what other people think? thanks.

note: haha i don’t know what to tag this because it’s not really about dating and relationships and doesn’t fit in a category…. kind of.

Category: Tags: asked March 24, 2014

3 Answers

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There is nothing wrong with telling him you love him as a friend. Anxiety persists as long as you allow it to be your default reaction to that situation. Behavior is by and large reinforcement. The more you allow one behavior to predominate a situation, you will never overcome it.

If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got. You MUST be willing to change yourself in order to change your life.
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Hello dear. Sorry you seem to be having trouble with this. I had this sort of feeling once. It's pretty awful, but here's my advice: tell him. You said you'd be okay even if he didn't feel the same way. At least you'll be able to get it off your chest. Another thing, try to spend more time with him and talk to him more before you tell him. It feels better to be loved by someone you have gotten to know rather than being loved by someone who you don't really talk to.
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yea, i try but i don't know how to not awkwardly talk to him face to face... but i do talk to him online or by text sometimes... he seems to like me more than he dislikes me, but i still worry a lot about it.. and if i do tell him, do you think it's smarter to write something to him or actually tell him? i'm a lot better with words and when i try to speak, things usually come out a bit weird and inaccurate...