So I turn 18 this Apr. I know i know it sounds like the typical oh they turn 18 and figure they have all the freedom of the world but this isn’t like that. There’s 3 things that I’d like to do when I turn 18 but know that my parents won’t support either. The first is a tribute tattoo of three small hearts on my right wrist, this is a tattoo for the 2 people who I hold closest. I was a self harmer for 3 and a half years and they are the two people who helped me stop and defeat it. My parents would not support this because first they don’t support tattoos in the first place and second because they don’t know of my adventures with self harm. The second thing is I want to enlisted in the reserves as a musician, I wouldn’t deport or fight or anything like that. It’s just be a part time job. But something about signing up to the reserves I don’t know if they’d like it. Lastly I want to become a music teacher but they don’t support it because they think it’s a waste of money and time. So I just don’t know whether I should just go ahead and do the things I want when I turn 18. Or wait till I get out of the house to do them. Thoughts?
Just because your parents think you shouldn't do something should not be a reason for you not to do it - on the other hand if there is a good reason for why they think so atleast give that a thought, but what possible reason could they have against you becoming a music teacher or any of the other stuff you want to do? It's your body and it's your life and it's not like you wanna go to africa and fight in one of the civil wars or something.
Thanks everyone! just to clear some things up, @Victoria I know they've been there for me I do respect them I just don't trust them. My mother knows about my self harm she just hasn't allowed me to explain basically when I showed her my scars she wouldn't allow me to explain she just basically clawed me stupid and said I did it just to make her feel guilty. My parents don't listen to logic very much. They don't want me to do music because they figure that there will be no jobs and I'll make no money but I wouldn't do anything I haven't done research on. I have, and it's said that jobs are opening up and being created and since music education isn't very popular there's really not much competition. And even if there is no jobs for music it's not just a degree to teach music it's a bachelor of music and a bachelor of education that I'll attain. Possibly a psychology degree as well. As for my tattoo, I have a friend who's in the forces and he says that it's okay as long as it's not offensive and I mean, it's not like I'm getting a giant skull or something meaningless just to rebel it's something that means something to me.
I can connect with you on trying to become a music teacher. Here's the thing, while getting certified to becoming a music teacher, you also become certified to teach as well. I'm getting certified to become a teacher and will be able to teach PreK all the way up until high school level. I really want to teach high school and direct the choir, do show choir (It's what they do in Glee if you don't know), direct musicals and plays, put on shows and basically do what my choir teacher did when I was in high school. I honestly NEVER met a person who REALLY enjoyed her job until I met her. Just try to be calm as possible, do your research and I think your parents might be more open. For the tattoo thing I'm not for it and I don't know what the reserves do either. Hope everything goes well.