I’ll start from the beginning so it makes sense. So um I met a guy a year ago in an online game and we became really good friends. We would spend hours chatting in the game until he gave me his number and I gave him mine, then we would text all day until we went to sleep. At first i thought he was a great friend and i just thought of him as a friend but then he would message me really nice and sweet messages like, “I’m so glad I met you” and “i wish i was next to you.” It went on like that for a few weeks and then one night he was really upset and sad so to help him I called him. That was the first time we ever spoke with each other on the phone, after that we spoke several more times. We talked so late at night. He helped me when i was upset and gave me advice on problems. We spoke about silly things like the weather and our favorite colors and tv shows. We talked about life after college and future goals for several more calls. Then one night he told me he liked me and I told him i liked him back, but around that time he was in school and he told me he had met a girl and they became friends. I was really happy for him because he told me he didn’t have friends from high school in that college. After that we would still call each other and one night he said he loved me and I said it back. But after that, he told me that the girl from school told him she liked him and he said he got really happy. I didn’t ask him what he told her but he told me he didn’t want to talk about her to me because he didn’t want to make me jealous, I was a bit, but I was mostly happy for him I was glad he found a friend. But, then we started to text less. I told myself that I should distance myself from him because I imagined him and her together now. So i would occasionally say hi and ask him how he was. He responded with, “I’m good, she’s taking good care of me.” A few weeks passed and i texted him the same questions and he responded with the same but said, “you don’t have to worry about me anymore.” I took that as he didn’t want to be friends anymore and that I should stop texting him. But I don’t know if I should ask him that at all? The last time i messaged him was in February but I feel like i need a proper answer from him so i can move on and get closure in a way. So i’d like to know what you think. Should i or not? Do i ask him to call me and i’d ask him then or should I text him instead? But i feel like if i were to ask him by text message he wouldn’t be honest or ignore the message. But if i were to call him i would get a response right at that moment and i think it would be more honest. But i really just want to know how he is doing and well get a closure so i can move on because he’s been on my mind for so long. Thank you so much for any advice.
