Should I make up with my ex best friend?

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I was friends with my best friend for about 6 years and then we had a huge fight and haven’t spoken in maybe 8-10 months.. I see her at school but she won’t talk to me or look at me. It kind of sucks, we were super close and now we hate each other. I’m still angry with her about the fight and I’m sure she’s just as mad as I am. I’ve tried talking to her and being social but the only responses I ever get are one worded.. I don’t know should I try to patch things up or move on with life and

**We’re also very different people now and I think we’ve realized that.

Category: Tags: asked October 5, 2014

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first of all u need to think back who was really at fault back then ? if it was you then you should try a lil harder to patch things up but if it was her fault and she even denies it then u don't have to go back to her.anyways whatever the case maybe its just that u still feel bad and in your heart want things to be normal again so u should give one last try so at least you don't have any regrets that you didn't try.go for it forget your pride because if you'll try once and for all you won't have any regrets and second thoughts .
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It was definitely her fault haha but you make a good point
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The question to ask yourself is, "Do I benefit greatly from this relationship and do I do worse when it is away?" If your answer is yes, then it would be convenient to try to patch things up. I've gone through this situation recently with a good friend of mine. We grew silent and mad at each other for a very long time and eventually I decided that I do better with the relationship than without. Talking face to face is something very hard to do, especially since she is so quiet, so I sent her an email apologising and explaining how I felt. Slow and steady, with email after email, we grew back together. You could try getting back with your friend this way since it sounds like she's not saying a lot to you face to face. Maybe write her notes or shoot her an email or text. If your answer is no, that you do not do better when you're friends, it might be time to just let it go. It's good that you've come to talk about it, that's the first step to getting over it. If you decide to break ties do it calmly, vent when needed, and find outlets for your happiness to distract you from your current troubles. I wish the best of luck to you.
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then you should give it a shot,try for one last time and sort out everything with her :)
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I think if you are still mad, totally making up is both impossible and frankly a waste of time. But . . . you should try to have a conversation with her and get things in a better place – agree to go on with your lives with civility so twenty years from now when her name comes up you can think back on the good memories you had together, and not just the fight and the enemies you became. Friends are better than enemies, and even if you will never be her best friend again, you should do what you can to at least be acquaintances instead of enemies who glare at each other in the hallways. Have a conversation with her, or even message her on Facebook explaining that you want to stop acting mad and get some closure. Until you get closure, every time you see her you'll just feel mad and confused and guilty about the friendship you used to have that died.