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Should I listen to my heart or my mom?

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I’ve had history with this boy for about two years now. I’ve never liked anybody as much as I like him. I’m sixteen and I’m not allowed to date. I’ve told my mom about him, hoping she would change her “no dating rule.” but she refuses. She says that if he really likes me he’ll wait for me until after high school ,but that’s so unfair because we’ll both be going our separate ways. I’m scared that if he asks me out again, I’ll have to reject him. I already rejected him once and regret it every day. What should I do to make my mom understand that I’m serious about him? Or should I just let him go?

Category: Tags: asked September 20, 2013
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Julia
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If you're not happy than what's the point. I'm not saying disobey and go behind your mom's back cause that could cause trouble but it's your life and to be honest, if you're not happy than it's not worth it. Try to live in the present cause no one knows the future and hey it may be worth the try.
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I'll preface this by saying that I'm 28, so my opinion on this may not feel helpful to you.I would let him go, or do what your mom says and wait. The fact that you both are going to go your separate ways after highschool is EXACTLY why you should wait. Long distance relationships are really hard, especially at your age. If you stay in the same town or go to the same college, then you can wait til you're 18 to start a relationship. And if you're not.. if you're going to different colleges.. it's going to be that much harder to make a relationship work. And if it doesn't work.. it's going to hurt WAY more if you get into a serious relationship now than it would if you just wait.
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AdaephonBenDelat
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Tell her how much you really like him and how after high school you guys won't be seeing each other and that isn't fair because you think you might be really into him as he is into you and tell him you rejected him the first time because of your mother and if he asks you again I think you should go for it you never know :) goooood luck sweetie :*
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Follow your heart because in the end, thats all that matters. If you think he's good for you, go for it. Sure, your mum isnt supportive but she cant exactly make you break up. And then there's the whole saying "What they dont know wont hurt them" :s
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Let me also add... as someone who remembers being your age vividly and had crushes... you're not the person you're going to be in 5 or 10 years. Finishing highschool and going to college are major formative experiences that will heavily influence the kind of adult you become. You two may not even like each other anymore in 3 years. That's why it's better not to get into serious relationships until you're a little closer to being an adult.
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AdaephonBenDelat
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