Should I let her go or go after her?


Sorry for this being so long. Six months ago my ex and I broke up. I was under the worst stress of my life with tons of problems that I was facing. Because of the stress I didn’t notice the signs that I was pushing away my ex as I tried to deal with the stress. She eventually gave up trying and broke up with me because she believed I no longer cared for or loved her. It was a horrible break up and we haven’t spoken since. I spent that last six months dealing with the issues causing my stress and have recently worked though all the problems. The whole time I missed my ex very much and now that I’m over the stress I see now how much of an idiot I was to not see what was happening between me and my ex. If I had been just a bit more open about my problems and paid more attention to her we would still be together. I let her down and I feel horrible about it. I want to fix our relationship but I don’t want to hurt her further by talking to her if she is getting over me but I don’t know if she is just waiting for me to say I’m sorry and the longer I wait the more it hurts her. I have no idea how she will react after six months of not talking to her. I messed up big time but I don’t know if I should try and fix it or just let it go. I want nothing more then for us to be back together but I don’t want to hurt her anymore.

Category: Tags: asked July 14, 2015

2 Answers

It's always the things we don't do that we regret most in the end in situations like this. I'd advise you to talk to her, let her know your side of things and how apologetic you are but be understanding if she doesn't accept it and has moved on.
We all make mistakes from time to time, so please don't beat yourself up about it. All you can do now is say your bit and hope for the best but if it doesn't work out at least you will know you have tried and hopefully find closure. Learning lessons and moving forward.
Best of luck.
Well I don't know how she feels but I know how that i would feel. If during the the troubling part of your life I was so unimportant that you had to dump me to focus on fixing yourself, then I would tell you to go fuck yourself if 6 months later you came back because now you had time for me. It may not be logical or what a sane person would do, but it is sure as hell what I would do.