I’ve never been one of those girls who it’s just easy to talk to guys I mean sure I’m kinda confident (now) and sure I’m a relatively happy person (now) but I still have social anxiety and when I comes or talking to boys I get awkward and shy and all that comes out is hi. I mean unless I have to work with them in class or im talking to them online or texting. Every boyfriend I have ever had I got over the internet I mean I have known them all in person I just started talking to them more over Facebook or MySpace back in the day. Now there is this boy I want to talk to and he goes to my school but we never see each other we don’t even have class together but I mean we are both juniors and have mutual friends. Infact we dated in 6th grade for like a week but I broke up with him because of anxiety back then I didn’t know how to deal with it. Um but I want to be friends with him agian but I never see him and have no way of talking to him so should I just message him on Facebook even though it isn’t the best way? I feel like it’s the only way.
Honestly, I really think you should go for it, the break up was a long time ago, he must have left that behind him, its better to try than to regret it! I wish you the best and I think it is a good idea to talk to him, even if its just small convo :D
Go for it! You'll never know unless you try! If it doesn't work out, whatever. At least you know :) I'm sure it'll work out. What's the worst that can happen? He won't message back? Woopdeedoo. Do ittttt :D
Okay well, I have found may people have this issue. How to go about talking to someone they hardly know. Here is the thing. I know you want to go up to him in which you can. You have mutual friends, so why not use them excuse to to him? If that fails, next plan of action establish a friendship online. Meaning, being friends with him on social media. That way he knows you are there. I am not going to tell you to just go up and talk to him. Because lets face it, if it was that easy you'd have done that by now. Gradually, make him notice you. You said you have mutual friends see what he is up to or what he may like. That would be your best route.
If it's really too difficult to talk to him in person either because of anxiety or because you never see him, then there really is no problem with you contacting him online. Eventually it will get easier to talk to people in person but if you don't feel comfortable with that then you don't need to rush. Rekindle your friendship and let him know how you feel. Best of luck.
In my opinion there is nothing wrong with taking the first step online as long as when you see him in person you don't withdraw completely or act like it never happened, this will only confuse him. If you want a real life relationship with someone be it friendship or more you have to get used to seeing/ talking to them in real life
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