Should I just let go?

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I like this boy a lot. he’s also one of my best friends and we had the talk about our feelings last week and he said he likes me too but that he’s afraid to lose me because he dated one of our other friends and their relationship didn’t end up well and they’re friends but just not the same. and he keeps flirting with me just like we were before. and the one thing i told him is that i don’t want to one day be friends the next day be more than that and the next day be strangers and he’s doing that again. and it’s killing me. and today we had a band performance and he invited his ex girlfriend to it. and seeing them together again killed me. and i don’t understand cause he won’t let me flirt with anyone else like he breaks it up or he stares at me and his state makes me so uncomfortable i have to stop talking to them. and i just feel so stuck it literally pains me to feel like this and i’m just so confused.

Category: Tags: asked August 23, 2013

7 Answers

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maybe you should sit down and try and tell him to stop flirting with you if you're not interested but if you are and you in your gut thinks it gonna work out go for it, but if you don't then stick to being friends
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Wow, I had a shockingly similar situation. I'll tell you my story and see if you can get anything from it.

Basically, I had this friend that I really liked. However, he had just broken up with a girl who happened to be one of my best friends, and I felt bad about liking him because they had literally JUST ended things. I found out a few weeks later that he liked me, but he was afraid of losing me as a friend because of things ended with my other friend. I thought for a little while, and then I asked him to tell me honestly if he wouldn't want to be friends if we ever broke up. He said of course he would want to remain friends, and I told him that I wouldn't be the one to end our friendship either. So then we were reassured, because we both knew that the other would hold the friendship secure. We broke up a while later because things just weren't working, but I can happily say that we're still good friends.
So the moral of the story is as long as you both want to be friends from the start you'll have no doubts.
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iwould keep him in the friend zone untill he grows up a bit because .it sounds like hes not ready for a one on one relationship
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@Song okay that is so freaky because that's so similar to what's happening to me right now. and i told him i would want to remain friends because there is no way i could ever deal with losing him which is exactly how he feels and his thing is he wants to keep off relationships for most of marching season. (we're in band)
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Haha, that is strange! Well, I wish you two the best of luck. (If he's worth waiting for)
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i think if both of you like each other and you both want to be in a relationship with each other you should go for it. if you are such good friend then you must be quite compatible.
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You should confront him because it's not fair that he doesn't want you to flirt with anybody but he flirts with other girls. You two should be on the terms, instead of it being one ended.