Should I just give up on him?

He doesn't sound like he could be your husband. It's not fair towards you that he does things with you and ditches you as soon as she's around. It sounds like he's only using you. You deserve better. He can't mess around with you and then run off to her again. You have to think about this. Would you really want to be married with someone who keeps running to another girl who he's in love with? He will only hurt you. In the end it's your choice, but this doesn't sound like a good relationship. He's eating from two cakes and that's just wrong. You deserve someone to love you and to be there for you. Someone to be there for you and your child.

I don't see why you would want to be loyal to someone who doesn't sound like they are loyal to you. It's even more tough for yourself because you are having a child with him, I know ideally you want that family, and for you all to be together but you have to think about if in the long run it is healthy for you and your baby, of course he has to play the role of a father, but doesn't necessarily have to play the role of your husband/partner. If he can't be honest with you all the time, chances are secrets are only going to increase, do yourself a favour and aim higher and better because there is someone who you won't have to question, who will give you the love you need. You're saving yourself the trouble of going through a whirl of emotions and heart break. Ofcourse you will be the ultimate decision maker, but I just hope you think clearly and not in the now, but for your future! Best of luck x

This sounds terrible, but if you are wanting what is best for your baby, then you need to find a respectful polite man to treat you right and take on the role. We all know the saying 'Plenty more fish in the sea' But it is true. There are so many men who would appreciate you and be loyal. It is hard to let go to someone you have strong feelings towards and it is hard to say goodbye to someone you have memories with and even a child with because you expect them to be there and you rely on them. He doesn't seem like he's ready to settle down and is confused on who he has feelings for, and maybe it would be for the best to move on with your life and focus on your baby having a good future. It may seem hard at the moment as it is clear you want to commit to this boy but he doesn't seem to be respecting you like he should be and you deserve to be treated nicely :)