Should I forgive my friends?

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About a year or so ago I became friends with one of my friends ex girlfriends (lets call her Rhiannon) during this time my friend group got larger with people I didn’t like (lets call them group b),these new people started to bully Rhiannon and I took to her side resulting in my loosing contact with my original live long friends (group A)

Its been a while now and we haven’t spoken a word besides some very small talk and one of my old friends even said they miss me,should I forgive them and try to break this silence? My parents said not to because of what they did to me but Im starting to miss them too.

TLDR: Got split up from my old friend group,things got a bit hostile and there has been no meaningful contact besides one telling me they miss me about a week ago,should I try and befriend them again?

Category: asked July 12, 2015

2 Answers

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Take them one on one and see how it goes, it might be easier to spend time with the individuals you like rather than trying to see if the whole group wants you back. Get coffee with the person who misses you, if they mean it they will spend time with you, if not, re-evaluate.
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I think what went down between you all was pretty shady. It's never okay to bully anyone, regardless of what they have done right or wrong in their lives. We all make mistakes. And the fact that they stopped speaking to you was uncalled for and undeserved. You were only doing what was right by standing up for Rhiannon.Moving forward, I've always believed that forgiveness is not for others but for ourselves. Forgiveness enables you to move on with the situation and frees you from feeling that hurt that you feel. It's not instant. You can't just wake up and say, "I think I'll forgive them all today." It's a gradual process, when you come to realize that you don't want to feel that hurt anymore and want to move on with it. So you make your peace with it. You have to confront them all, individually is probably best, and let them know that what they did hurt you. And that you want to move past it. If you ignore it and become friends again, you will have unresolved feelings that you may never get over. You just won't know what to do with those feelings. So it's best that you try and resolve them to salvage the friendship. And if they are your true friends, they will realize what they did wrong and try to mend the friendship. And if they don't realize it, you forgive them anyway and move on.